The ladies of The View discussed the question "Should parents ask kids if they're gay?" As you might expect, there were some divided opinions on this matter. Also, Joy Behar seems to think that playing with girly toys equates to homosexuality. I'm not even going to touch that.
Some of you may have come out to your parents after they inquired about your sexuality. Some of you may have done it on your own. Hell, some of you may not even be out to your parents.
With that said, is there any "right" way for people to come out? And what should a parent's role be in the process?
– Dewitt
i think its really awesome that women are having this conversation, because a few years ago, the questions were not when to ask or how to make sure they know you still love them, it was what to do, or how to hide it from other people, or weather to kick the kid out or just send him to shock therapy. this really shows how far we have come.
Honestly, i think that parents should focus less on the sex of their kid’s partners and more on teaching them about protecting themselves, and respecting their bodies.
joy behar’s comments were a bit offputting to me.
the idea of a child playing with “opposite sex” toys being a determinate in their future sexual preference is a little simple-minded/naive to say the least.
I think that it is a very personal subject that should be addresses only when you are ready be it at 17 or 70!
I came out to my parents like this, “I’m gay and ordering pizzas, what do you want on yours?” I can’t say I came up with the idea, I read it on a website somewhere. They’d asked before, when they found porn on the family computer when I was like 12 (I’m the youngest of 4 and was the last to come to sex so my siblings wouldn’t have been too scandalized). I denied it and said it must’ve been downloaded by a virus. After coming out, they said they actually believed the virus story. What can I say, I was generally an honest kid.
I will say that a boy playing with dolls can possibly lead to him associating with females,having cohesions with them,subconsciously becoming unaware he is picking up common traits from them,which could easily lead to effeminate mannerisms at a young age.This may not be an issue for the adult homosexual,yet its clearly understandable if a parent chooses not to let there son play with toys that are usually found with girls out of fear that his actions and mannerisms will become effeminate,placing him at risk for abuse,prejudice,murder,etc.As for his sexual attractions that could very well be another story.
I am honest to say that I was with Elizabeth on this one. AND I’m NEVER on Elizabeth’s side (I’m typically rooting for Joy). I think that open dialogue is important. Before I came out to my family- they kept telling me that no matter what, they loved me and would support any decision I make.
I don’t believe that boys playing with dolls lead to being gay at 7ish. I’ve worked with children at day cares and youth centers. Kids that age see playing as PLAYING. The kids play in a group and just play- there’s no gender involved. They view playing as playing. Example- The kids don’t see playing with a pink vacuum cleaner as being a girl. They view it as being like mommy and daddy- cleaning up
That’s just my stance on the issues. But great discussion from The View! I’m so surprised by it!
Jay,
” if a parent chooses not to let there son”? You do know the difference between “there” (as in a place or location) and “their” (as in “belonging to them”), right? And you also need to remember, especially when using SO MANY commas, that there is ALWAYS a space after a comma. This rule applies to periods, too. It makes your sentences hard to read otherwise.
I actually came out to my mom yesterday after she asked me. She must have watched this, ha
I don’t believe that boys playing with dolls lead to being gay at 7ish. I’ve worked with children at day cares and youth centers. Kids that age see playing as PLAYING. The kids play in a group and just play- there’s no gender involved. They view playing as playing. Example- The kids don’t see playing with a pink vacuum cleaner as being a girl. They view it as being like mommy and daddy- cleaning up