In the aftermath of Proposition 8, we’ve got to ask–how many of you are in favor of marriage? And I’m not talking about marriage equality on a statewide, national or global level. Let’s bring this to a more personal level. Do you want to get married? Are you already married? In other words, are you a fan of “putting a ring on it”?
Yes, I’m going to be tacky and include pictures from a wedding-themed porn shoot. Hopefully, they won’t sway your opinion in one way or another, as my only intention is to showcase one of the many things married couples get to do together. Because we all know gay men remain virgins until after they walk down the aisle…
– Dewitt
Photo credit: UK Naked Men
To check out pictures of the couple “celebrating” their marriage, follow the JUMP:
I am all for gay marriage, you cant help who you fall in love with, and i most certainly want to get married and even have kids if im lucky enough.
Iam a huge believer of marriage and I hope to propose one day. The problem is I can’t find a right guy who also believe in marriage.
I am sure Dame Edna will blather on ad nauseam.
marriage is not for me.
Marriage is for me. I have a good example in my parents who’ve been happily married for the last 41 years and counting, and I was raised to believe marriage is important and something you give your all for and don’t give up on. Granted, this was all taught with the idea that we were all heteros, but I don’t see why the same principles couldn’t apply just because I like dudes.
I’m old fashioned. I want to romance and be romanced by someone, propose, maybe do the ceremony a little differently, but hell yes I want to put a ring on it!!
marriage is totally for me … with the right guy
With the right guy, yes!
I’m in no rush to be married and wish more people would take a “wait and see” attitude about the final committment (gay and straight). Until then, play the field, meet new people, date, even live together until we both know it is right.
Hell yeah, Marriage is for me!
If it were a woman. Just my opinion. I do want commitment.
Nope. I can be faithful to someone until I die, but I don’t see myself “marrying”. It’s hard enough finding a gay man who is looking for more than a hookup.
Marriage is not for me, I think all marriage should be done away with. Same-sex, heterosexual, so on and so forth. In fact, I don’t even believe in monogamy. I’ll vote for equal rights and same-sex marriage, but I don’t find any value in a piece of paper confirming what my heart may already know.
I’m expecting an engagement fairly soon (since I know he bought a ring the other day) and I can’t fucking wait to get married!!
Gay married is not for me. As much as I support it, am looking for the manogamy in a relationship, but the thing that scares me is the whole moving in. I love living alone, but most guys I meet think it’s because I wanna have an orgy, not so, just luv to come home to peace a quiet. Plus sleeping together one thing I have to admit, I do snore.:)
It’s really refreshing to me to see these pro-marriage comments today! I totally expected the opposite, I hate that the stereotype of gay men not being able to be monogamous. I think it’s sad that I get laughed at (by more gays, than straight people) whenever I say I want a husband, and a family. Good luck to you marriage material guys!
I don’t necessarily want to get married. But I’m not saying I never would. In all reality we should have an equal society and I personally believe that even if I never want to get married I shoild at least have the option to marry the man of my dreams if I want to.
I’ll be honest though I love that gays are well on their way (here in the US) toward having the choice whether to marry or not in general, for me personally I don’t foresee myself getting married.
One of the first benefits that I began to realize about being gay (when I went through the whole realization as well as “coming out” process was the alleviation of perceived societal pressure. I remember all of my friends parents both male and female constantly bombarding their kids with “when are you going to settle down?” or “Have you met that special someone”? speeches. These occurred with increasing regularity and from a very young age. Particularly for women, the pressure to marry is even greater by 17 or 18 (at least in my personal experience) women were bombarded with pressure to finding their mate. Being gay at least for me helped to remove those hetero normative pressures that rigidly define how one has to live their lives. But I do applaud the decision that gays should have the same rights to marriage as our heterosexual counterparts!
Oh and congratulations to you, Tommy! *throws confetti*
Marriage is for me with the right guy.
FYI, even if marriage isn’t for you, I’d hope that you at least support the right to marry for those who believe in it.
*wonders why married men are using condoms still*
It’s so funny you brought this up because me and 3 straight friends just had a conversation about marriage and monogamy. One was bummed out he broke up with his girl a month ago and I was like, “Bro, it was a month ago. You’re not over it yet?”
Long story short I’ve never been in a long term relationship and I’m 23. But I’ve just never been inclined to. When asked if I wanted to get married I was like, “I don’t think so.”
“Don’t you all want the right to marriage?”
I want the right. I just don’t have to practice it.
Pictures from a wedding themed porn shoot is not tacky. Pictures from a porn themed wedding on the other hand…
Tried it (partnered, that is, and monogamous) for 16 years. That was 20 years ago and not looking to repeat it, but best of luck to those who can make it work. There were aspects of it that were amazing, but others that made it unbearable.
Yes, I def want to get married and have a family, just like the straight folk. Just cause I like men doesn’t mean that marriage would mean any different to me than straight people. It bothers me when they say homosexuality is the biggest threat to marriage when divorce is the biggest threat.
No! After I’ve been with someone for over a couple months, the eye starts wandering, and the dick and ass soon follow. I let everybody know right out front that any relationship I get into is going to be an “open” relationship. And I’m really kind of brutal about it.Right up front is “It’s my way or the highway”! Everyone knows what to expect from me and when things are ready to break up, let’s do it gracefully, get together again when the timing is right, assuming we both want a quickie “Old Time” fuck.
i don’t really see what’s so important about “marriage,” itself, per se.
it’s just a regular ceremony, that certainly doesn’t guarantee ever-lasting happiness.
however.. ..if other consenting adults, beside men & women, want it, then they should be able to have at it.
what really matters more, i feel, is making available those ‘legal rights’ which are conferred with a standard marriage.
(that’s what a Civil Union is supposed to be for — right?)
in the meantime, i don’t know why so many heterosexuals just have to get their panties all into a bunch over same-sex marrying.
there are other “threats” that they’d be better off focusing on.
The way I see it…it’s not for me. Long story short, I believe in separation of Church and State. Marriage is a religious ceremony, and I’m not religious, nor should any of us pressure them to “marry” us. I do not believe in the courthouse calling them marriages either since that supports a religious ceremony. Not to mention they get tax benefits and stuff.
So… I’ll probably catch flak for this, but for now on, call ceremonies done at religious places, Marriage. And ceremonies at courthouses civil unions. Whether your gay, straight, bi, lesbian, transgendered…whatever your case is, if you find a church to marry you, more power to you. But a courthouse SHOULD honor any ceremony, by calling them a civil union. In the eyes of the IRS….both married and civ union’d couples get equal rights and tax breaks or no one does.
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@ Randall: most stereotypes are based on some level of truth….I hate to break it to you, but there are a large number of both gays and straights that can’t handle and/or don’t believe in monogamy….I am not saying they are the majority (though I’m not saying they aren’t either) but the simple fact is, such people certainly exist
Wheelie, I know what you mean, I know the stereotypes and I know that in our community it probably is the majority. But, it seems like people act like it’s and impossibility… and it’s not. Just because 95% of gay men want to be whores doesn’t mean we all do.
If I can just time in briefly and no offense is intended, but it’s a huge leap at least in my opinion from not being monogamous to being a “whore”, and this is as aforementioned my opinion. I think my definition of whore is someone who is sexually reckless and someone who will sleep with just about anyone (strangers included). However, I don’t think this is true simply because you don’t believe in monogamy or choose to not live your life in that way. You can have multiple long term friendships (with benefits) and relationship that are not only based on more than just sex but are also fulfilling. I have a friend though who despite not being in a monogamous relationship with his partner by far is not at all promiscuous. He takes his time gets to know other guys on a friend level if it goes somewhere it’s usually months down the line and only occurs with the other boyfriend and safely. Yes this isn’t a traditional monogamy based relationship but it’s one (at least again in my opinion) that is fulfilling to the two of them and has brought them closer to each other. I think people in general are so quick to label, whether (straight, gay, monogamous, whore, prude ect) in the end I think it undermines what’s important, which is happiness and fulfilling intimate relationships and safety and health of course. But again this is simply my opinion and I am more than happy to welcome any feedback on the subject.
“chime” in briefly lol
I would like to marry, but only if the people of my state voted in favor of it. I don’t want my so called right if its brought about by judicial fiat. Otherwise, yeah, I wanna get married to that special guy and have kids.
I just dont wanna get old alone. I have seen so many old gays here in New England who are very lonely and miserable because they dont have anyone with them. I just dont wanna be that gay down the road. I wanna have someone on my side when I’m old. I don’t think anyone would want to spend time with me when Iam 60 y/o. We all know how oldies are treated in the gay community, don’t we?
Marriage is a Federal Institution. Like it or not, marriage is recognized and carries statutory recognition by over 1000 federal laws and statutes, not the least of which is the Fair Faith and Credit Act.
If you are not for gay marriage, then this is what you are saying to the world:
“Gay persons in emotionally committed relationships have relationships that are inferior to those of heterosexuals and can be denied their rights to equal access for this reason.”
It’s not just about marriage. It’s about being equal.
Good point scottb it’s also important to note that marriage isn’t nor ever has been exclusive to any one religions interpretation.
I’m all for it, and I’m lucky enough to live in Connecticut where we can. I’m just waiting for my boyfriend to propose to me…that’s if he ever does…
YES!
Yeah, the pics were tacky & inappropriate.
It’s too late for me to consider marriage. No one would want me anyway. So, I guess I could say I really don’t give a flying fuck about it.
However, if gay men want the equal legal rights that come with traditional marriages, then it’s time for them to quit trying change an ancient religious practice that has become ingrained into societies & cultures the world over.
Instead, go forward with an initiative for same sex civil unions that have all the same rights as marriages. Do you really care that much about a name? I mean, really. If traditionalists want to define marriage as legal or religious union between a man & a woman, then fine. Why does a same sex union have to be called the same thing? If your heterosexual neighbors buy a gaudy-looking couch, do you really want the same thing in your own living room? You can have the same couch, made of the same materials & with the same design, just with a better fabric, can’t you? Then why not do that?
Why does the LGBT community feel that being legally bonded or joined with another individual of their same sex has to be called the same thing that heterosexual couples call it? As long as it entails the same legal rights & is recognized by every state & preferably every country, I couldn’t call a flying flip what you call it. The primary reason heterosexuals are against same sex unions is because the LGBT community wants to identify it & call it “MARRIAGE”. Just find a new name for it, make sure it has all the same legal rights of the “M” word & get it voted into law. That’s it, people! Geesh! Why in the hell does everyone feel like they have to have the same damn red tricycle?