Wrapped or Raw: Discussing Pos-Pos Sex

Wrapped or Raw

Two years ago, we introduced you to Wrapped or Raw. The unique campaign from Australia’s Positive Life NSW organization explores choices made by HIV-positive gay men—specifically about using condoms in pos-pos sex—all while offering options to minimize risk, maximize pleasure, manage disclosure and have great sex.

As we noted before, pos-pos sex isn’t something we talk about every day. There aren’t, to my knowledge, many resources for HIV-positive gay men to discuss topics like disclosure and handling rejection; negotiating different sex scenes with new partners; hooking up on the net; making decisions on whether to use condoms in pos-pos sex; and communicating what they are or aren’t prepared to do during sex.

That’s where Wrapped or Raw comes in!

Their redesigned website incorporates real-life video stories to ensure that the voice and experiences of people living with HIV are a central component of the campaign. Additionally, they offer online booklets about decision making in pos-pos sex, addressing everything from discussions between partners about HIV status to sexual health and testing for STDs.

Regardless of your status—HIV or otherwise—we recommend viewing the videos and digging through the information on the campaign’s website. The stories are real, and while you sometimes may not agree, the guys are honest and upfront when talking about their sexual lives and relationships.

Check it out. This is an intimate insight into pos-pos sex.

– Dewitt

Click through to watch a video from the campaign:


Hear more stories at Wrapped or Raw!

147 thoughts on “Wrapped or Raw: Discussing Pos-Pos Sex

  1. What informed, consenting adults do with each other is their business and no one else’s. Read that again, because sometimes people jump on me claiming I’m advocating that people should go around purposefully infecting others. If informed, consenting adults wish to partake in natural sex, fine. If they wish to wear condoms, fine.

    When we demand (as so many here have before) that HIV+ people be shipped off to an island all their own, or never be allowed to have sex again, we become (as a whole) no better than narrow minded hetero’s who claim that anything other than what they like is morally wrong and just plain “icky”. You stay out of my bedroom, and I’ll stay out of yours.

    HIV+ people are still people… I won’t turn down a relationship with someone because of an infection. Well, not exactly true. If their mind is infected with stupidity, that’s another story. Bigotry in all forms is ugly. Let informed, consenting adults do what they want. It’s not ‘our’ decision to make if 2 + people want to have sex.

  2. Thank you for this post. It’s good to see more about openly poz guys here lately–and even better to hear from some directly. I spent a bit of time on the site and it contains a lot of important health safety information that’s pertinent to both positive and negative guys.

    DAK23 commented earlier that he “won’t turn down a relationship because of an infection,” which struck me as a beautiful and heartwarming thing to say. This poz-poz post is welcome and great, but maybe it’s also time for some coverage of what successful “magnetic” (poz-neg) relationships involve. Health conscious as I remain, I’m for bridging that unnecessary divide.

  3. I did miss that post, so thanks for bringing it to my attention. Good information (again, for negative as well as positive guys) and several great comments on the post itself. It’s inspiring to hear from those whose open minds and hearts have–irrespective of HIV–enabled them to make their relationships succeed.

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