Random Question: What’s Your “Number”?

Please refrain from listing your telephone numbers in the comments section! The title of this post is a reference to the upcoming Anna Faris and Chris Evans movie What’s Your Number?, which my lovely co-blogger J. Harvey mentioned over here. Contrary to popular belief, the film’s plotline doesn’t revolve around Chris Evans being naked…

It’s actually about Anna Faris tracking down her exes, after discovering a statistic that “96% of women who have been with twenty or more lovers can’t find a husband”. As you might have guessed, the “number” in the movie’s name refers to the number of guys she’s banged in her lifetime.

So when we ask you what’s your number, what we’re really asking you is… How many men (or women) have you ever slept with? We know, we know! This is an extremely personal question. If it’s too much for you to be honest, feel free to knock a dozen or two off your total.

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713 thoughts on “Random Question: What’s Your “Number”?

  1. In the 10 years period I have been with more than 600 guys. I’m only 29 right now. I only top so I guess my number ain’t too bad for a top.

  2. it depends on what actually sleeping with is….. if it is just fucking, the number is considerably lower for me, if other stuff goes (oral, fingering, jo, etc) then the number is considerably higher…

  3. top or bottom that number is high no matter how u cut it…. an average of 60 per year, which is more than one different guy per week (a year has 54 weeks)….

    where I live the ratio between tops and bottoms seem to be 1:4, so I can see how u’d find that many different men to sleep with….

    I’m 37 yo, been  sleeping with men for 21 years, and my number is considerably lower than urs… in my view, a year that I have slept with 20 is too much as is (grad school years)….

    not saying u r a bad person or anything, whatever makes u happy is fine with me, but I do wonder  how u have time to do anything else…. 😉

  4. I’m also a late bloomer. Also prefer to take some time and get to know the guy before I sleep with him. So…  8 in the 12 years of being sexually active.

  5. I lost count after 70, but I started young, on average only 4 a year really, and if it takes another 70 to find the right guy for me, then that’s what I’ll do.

  6. Why do people feel the need to defend low numbers? Maybe your standards checklist involves more than “has a dick?”

  7. Also don’t know why one has to defend either low of higher numbers. Some guys are highly sexed others not. My number is way higher than 600, been out for 36 years and can say I have easily had a couple a week at times.

  8. I stopped really tracking at 100 but I’d guess about 250. It depends what you’re counting as sex. If it’s just anal, it’s lower by a lot.

  9. In my two years of being active, slept with one, blown 5, been blown by two many to count.

  10. I had over 100 but lost count a while ago. Anyhow, I found the one 12 years ago so I think in my case it took probably 20 before I met him.

  11. Since, I got my first BJ when I was 10 y.o. (best friend’s big brother;-)and, I’m 52 y.o. now, my number is easily 42-(yrs.) X 8-(average per year) = 336 give or take several all nighter orgies/bathhouse adventures, lol ;-)~

    P.S.  Mostly as a Top 🙂

  12. I think that a person’s number depends on a variety of factors.  Age, sex drive, location, background and family history.  For some folks 1 person a year might be considered too many.  For others, 1 a week  isn’t enough.  There have been times where I’ve had sex with more than one person in a day.  For the past 12 I’ve been in a relationship.  Despite that, I’m probably closer to FunBottom.  I’ve had lots (& loads) of fun and have generally kept a healthy outlook on sex and sexual pursuits.

    Regardless of your number, have fun, be informed, enjoy life and (hopefully) stay safe and die from old age with no regrets.

  13. yeah…I dont want to know…Im an average looking 20yo and Ive done about 40 ppl with my boyfriend of 8 months alone :/
    I’d hate to know the rest :/

  14. I have slept with many guys because I fear HIV too much. Also, I was looking for more than a one night stand back in the day. Once you become over 40 in the gay life style, you considered dead or over they hill by many gay men. I’m a recluse now. LOL

  15. Wow……  guess I’m the only guy on here that has slept with women so if I count both sex’s it would be around

    300 but then again I started when I was 17 years old and now I’m 30 so that’s not so bad

    sometimes I look back and tell myself shouldn’t have done that LOL……….. 

  16. 30. i’ve been having sex since i was 13. i’m 20 now. i don’t think its too bad. lol i’m no saint but i’m definitely not a slut either. also recently i’ve slowed down quite a bit. When i was younger i was curious, now i know whats out there and i’ll be choosing quality over quantity for the rest of my life.

  17. so far 12 and i’ve been only active for 10 weeks (late bloomer, im 26). Its my vacation right now so, ive been average at least 1 a day, repeat or new person.

  18. I have probably had sex with over a 1000, I came out in the early 80s before aids and i lived in Miami so , it was a time of disco and cocaine so, it was not unusual back then, it was a time of reckless abandon and crazy shit

  19. If it includes sucking dick, then probably in excess of 250. Anal? Probably 10-20. I;m 22, so probably a way to ratch those numbers up still.

  20. Now, now. lol I wasn’t counting women. But that would only add two to my number. lol As far as the other comments that said those with low numbers felt like they had to defend themselves.. I don’t feel that way. I’m in no way judging those who have high numbers, but I’m very happy that my number is low. I would love to say it’s only been one, but too late for that.

  21. Well I’m going to provide some for the other end of the spectrum. If we’re talking anal then its 2, sucking dick its 5.

  22. so either you were married to one, or more of those women in your 20 years, or just enjoy having sex with men a hell of alot more? Either way I like how your number somewhat tells a story.

  23. I was married to one woman, and had a kind of LTR with two-three-four (depends on defenition of LTR). My experience with men is almost exclusively of one-night-stands (ok, up to 3-night-stands in a couple of cases). But yes, at least nowadays I enjoy sex with men more.

  24. then around 150  for me…… fucking around 70…. (I’m 37, had sex for the first time when I was 16)

  25. Lost count after 100, but probably close to 200 now. But that is including oral sex. If we’re just talking anal sex, less than 50.

  26. a good follow-up question is, “. . .and with how many of these people would you want to have a repeat performance?”

    (i’m gonna bet that those “numbers” will start becoming significantly lower, then.)

    to answer my own follow-up, i’m gonna give an estimate of 18 – 27% — i suppose chemistry & compatibility is rather important to me.
    and i don’t get to determine those two, until after i meet the person. unfortunately…

  27. I never actually came out but really started  in the 70’s also. Time of easy weed, LSD, alcohol, drugs of all kinds, free love, easy sex. Only the Lord knows how many guys I’ve been with. Used to go to the parties where you checked your clothes at the door at least 3-4 nights a week. (You other guys probably also remember those times.) Plus the bath houses were open all night and were especially packed on week-ends. (Remember those days?) The worse that you’d get would be a dose of clap and penicillin would have that gone in a couple days. After 7 years in the Bay area,  I hit Ann Arbor, MI and that place was a hotbed of gay sex also. Hot college guys were asking to be taken.  Then MA, probably the most sexually active “gay” place this side of SanFran. Who kept track in those days? You just thought it was great if you actually recognized the face of the guy you were sleeping with.  And I’ve been extremely lucky, almost always wore “rubbers” (weren’t known as “condoms” then), and practically always toppped, though I do appreciate a good top that can throw a good fuck at me. Never caught anything except a dose of the clap once and an infestation of crabs a couple times. And I never slowed down much as I got older. That old saying “If you keep using it, you’ll never start losing it” seems to be  pretty accurate. Keep track??  Hell, NO! I don’t think I own a calculator that tallies that high!

  28. I’m at 112.  Yes, I keep track.  Hard not to, considering most of them live near me and socialize with each other.  But hey, the gay community out here’s pretty incestuous.

    Anyway, that’s my number, and this is the first time I’ve ever admitted it.  *chuckling*

  29. Only one girl in my numbers… I’m 21, and I think my number is somewhere around 150. First started when I was 13 (with my one and only girl), and first time with a guy when I was 15. Just added two to my numbers earlier today, actually.

  30. 73 for me. 3 women, 70 men. I’m totally bisexual, but for some reason, far easier to get guys.

  31. probably close to 200….   and many in groups.. frat parties rule if ya know how to work the room hehehe

  32. I am  in my forties  became sexually active in my late teens  and would put the number at or around 150 .   up until now I have never giving much thought 2 how many I have been with I guess I should start keeping better records LOL …….

  33. I can’t help but feel a lot of people are either a) full out lying or b) exagurating greatly.

    Either way, my answer (at age 23) is 7.

  34. Wife is the only woman I’ve slept with.  I gave up counting the men many, many, many years ago.

  35. yikes – let put it out there…over 25 years sibnce I came out, I’d say over 500. 3/month.

  36. I suddenly feel a lot less slutty than I did a minute ago while counting. It’s 13 guys and 4 girls…. But only 9 guys and 3 girls if you only count penetration.

  37. I would say 60. Not really a number I’m proud of (I’m 24) but it was a time in the past that I think had to happen. I’ve learned quite a lot since then.

  38. Oh jeez, I’m the totaly opposite end. I’ve slept with one and fooled around with only one other guy haha

  39. I’ve been active for 18 months now, and in that time, fooled around with 15 or so, done full blown anal sex with 3,

  40.  Around 300 + men starting from age 27-42….plus prior to age 27 I was with 7 women. These are numbers of people that I have had sexual contact with….I despise the phrase of “sleeping” with someone…

  41. I lost my virginity in 1992, when I was 16.  I’m not really one to spend a long time in relationships, so my number is pretty high, probably around 500.  If you limit it to partners in which fucking was involved, the number is significantly lower, maybe 25 or so.  Lots of anonymous blowjobs!

    Oh, and that guy in the photos is so hot!

  42. I’m 22 and my number is just over 200.  I started going through guys at 19.  My maximum number for one 24 hour period was about 20.  Crazy night.

  43. 312…. Within the last 6 months. Some were two at a time. Im a 37 year old, long haired,  bottom and making men feel good about being a man is what I do best. Do you think my hair has anything to do with it???

  44. 16, I think! Including one girl. Not all anal either.
    I thought 16 was a lot :/

    Also, I’m offended no one has commented on how HOT this guy is in this photoshoot.
    I’d easily make him 17…and hopefully he’d stick around to stay that number too 😉

  45. yabbadabbayowzers: you need to review your math skills… 3/month x 25 years = 900

    just saying

  46. Well Im big into oral, and pretty active. My number probably is around 300 in the last 2 years. Maybe 20 more before that. If counting fucking only my number would be around 30 or maybe less.
    And how many would I repeat: maybe 20 %. Guess being horny has a lot to do with it.

  47. Ok. Nw I feel relieved after seein y’all numbers! Mine is 15 and I’m only 18yrs. Started gettin some 2yrs back. Oh I’m from Nigeria so that gotta b something right?

  48. In the last 10 years, there have been more than 500 men.  Something that doesn’t seem to have been mentioned is that there were many three ways, and orgies along the way which is how the number got so high!  Being versatile also increases the number of men who are willing to have sex with me as I can top and bottom, preferably at the same time!  

  49. No it wasn’t. I don’t think it’s a good thing to have slept with hundreds of people, but to be so rude as this is uncalled for.

  50. Only a gay site would make this into an issue.  I personally will not give into this queer game and say how many people I have been with intimately.  That is a personal matter that should be kept to yourself and not broadcast on the internet like some kind of competition of bragging right.

  51. I came out in the mid seventies… before that I had sex with 5 women… since then about 500 men… but I fucked those 5 women at least 500 times. lol!

  52. no fucking clue, its so many… well into the thousands. and i dont remember a fair proportion of them. always bumping into guys i dont remember at all who tell me we’ve fucked

  53. its been a few a week for years. and at weekends generally big gang bangs. and i have a husband – we do them together

  54. Depends on what you consider ‘sleeping with’ entails. If actually going with/taking them home; is the guide line, then the number is around 50 (I’m 51… came out at 14… and have been in 3 serious, monogamous  relationships lasting 4 to 6 years) Now if random oral or handjobs, anonymous fucks and sucks are counted; I’m in big trouble.  I worked for several years for a company that owned a couple  Bathhouses/Adult video stores.  It would be unusual to not get at least 1 partial, quickie blowjobs a day working there. Knocking a couple dozen off will still leave me over 1000 (and probably closer to 2000)  Keep in mind this was before HIV/AIDS was so promient.  In the last 10 years; it’s been FAR less… averaging 2 or 3 a year.  Was I a slut then?  I don’t think so.  I had sex with far fewer people than some of my co-workers, and 99% of the guys I messed around with; I knew by first AND LAST name.

  55. I was started at 11, I’m 29. It’s waaaaaaay up there now, (600? more!) mostly bottom. It’s how Canadians stay warm.

  56. several thousand – I started so early few would believe me. being chicken in the right market I have enjoyed being popular bottom, then became a top because so few tops were good.
    Now I’m versatile – and although I’ve retired from group sex situations – I’ve had the company of more good men then bad. It was never considered slutty when I started it was sowing oats. I’m not alone. And slutty is actually defined by dictionary as a poor housekeeper. Would have sex in a dirty house – so I guess we need a new word.

  57. Yep… I bet if we actually count “sleeping with”, as in sleeping together overnight, many of the high numbers will become much, much lower.

  58. Political correctness is not going to work, sir. I call it like I see it. A person sleeping with over 600 men is a slut.

  59. well I live in NH so I swing back and forth between NH and Boston MA and between… I don’t even understand how I ended up being a slut but my quick guess is there is a high ratio of top to bottom like 1:6.

  60. Lol. I think that is the first time I’ve ever been accused of being politically correct. lol It’s usually the opposite. Again, would I do it with six hundred men?? Hell no! But I’m not going to be rude to someone either. And now we’ve had men post that it’s been over 1500!
    Look. I really don’t think it’s smart to sleep with so many. And I may say to myself that it would seem that person is a slut. But to come on a blog that is asking a guy to reveal his number and call him a slut for him and everyone else to see just seems a little mean. I guess he should have lied and said it was 6.

  61. As I read these comments I am reminded of a poster that hung on the wall of my health class in high school, it showed the actually number of people you slept with if each of your sexual partners slept with two other persons. By the time you reached 12 partners, your actual exposure was somewhere in the thousands. That always kinda scared me, so I guess the poster worked.  I have been sexually active since I was 12, and am now 29, and my number is 9.

  62. I can count on one hand the number of men who i’ve let fuck me. I’d need maybe 20 hands for men I’ve fucked (thats maybe 100 different men and quite a few of those multiple times), Need a few hundred hands for men I’ve given and received head to and from …

  63. I’m strictly a top and I thought I have been pretty promiscuous in my life, 42 yrs old and my total number is about 80 and I thought that was disgusting….. put it this way I always lie and say 60. And I have been celibate since 38. I had 8% body fat and now I’m like 40lbs ow so I would never subject anyone to me.

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