Our friends at Maverick Men brought up this question in a recent post, and we couldn’t help but repeat it over here. So without further ado, we’ve got to ask–are you shy when it comes to peeing in public? At one point or another, we’ve all had moments of stage fright, but some folks have it worse than others.
Although a few people might disagree, I’m just glad most urinals have barriers these days! Remember those tub-like open urinals that they used to have in locker rooms and other public locations? Back then, I would always freeze up when someone walked up next to me.
My worst time was a few years ago at The Eagle in New York City, after having a very platonic conversation with a friend of a friend. This guy followed me into the bathroom and stood directly by my side. When I couldn’t “perform”, he took it as a sign that I just wanted to show him my cock. Long story short? It was awkward for everyone involved.
But that’s just me! While I’m well aware that this is a totally inane and slightly childish topic, we’d love to hear some of your favorite “pee shy” moments. Don’t be worried or embarrassed about sharing your stories! You might find out that you’re not alone when it comes to this…
– Dewitt
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I like to call myself a private pee’r, not a shy pee’r. I don’t have trouble pissing in public or around anyone else or anything, but I also usually prefer a stall, haha.
I used to be, but now I can pee with anyone watching… it just takes some time to start in certain situations. Like when a guy is into ws, the first time I couldn’t go for nearly 15 minutes lol
Yeah, I’m not pee shy in public restrooms (unless I know the people peeing with me), but I often get pee shy in WS situations. Never a turn on.
I’m not pee shy in public either unless it is with friends. More of an exhibishionest and voyeur when at the urinals. Bener had a problem pee’n when I was in NYC and would go to the Eagle. Usually had to watch my backside for missle attacks.
I am pee shy when someone I know comes in beside me. Anyone else I’m okay with and my Bf. I use to be with him but he’s help me get over it with him.
I’m absurdly pee-shy.
Funny story, actually:
The other night, I was doing some kidnapping role play, and after I had quite a bit to drink and was all trussed up, I found I needed to pee. So, my kidnapper propped me up in the bathroom, but I couldn’t pee with him there, so we had to stop the scene, untie me, have him leave the room, piss, and then resumed the scene.
I can’t pee in front of anyone…EVER. It sucks, I sometimes have to stand there waiting forever and have even had to walk out of the bathroom without going a few times.
not pee shy at all. never have been. but then i’m into w/s and i love to see guys pee. it’s a big turn on.
First off, that last picture is wow. Second, I will not use a urinal. When i was in say 3rd grade, I was using one. I had a male teacher come up next to me, he started, then I finished and he said “Don’t forget to wash your hands.” Grossed me out so bad, I haven’t used once since. Strangers don’t talk to me when I’m using the restroom! Worst part is, he ended up being my teacher later.
Don’t mind doing it beside another person; I just don’t like it when an unsolicited comment comes my way. Insult or flattery… using a urinal isn’t an invitation to critique my penis.
I have 4 brothers and have never been pee shy. I can get out of the shower after the gym and walk up to the urinal stark naked and piss. I am poop shy though. I have problems when I know people are in the restroom or locker room and I am taking a dump. Is that to much information?
I’m pee shy, and what’s worse I’m cum shy. When I’m with a guy I don’t know very well I can almost never cum. This may sound like a blessing ’cause it means I can fuck for hours, but after a while I really just want to get off so I can go home.
not only am i not ‘pee shy’ (some people call is having a ‘shy bladder’) i cannot, for the life of me, comprehend the concept at all. i feel for you guys, but can’t relate. average wienie here (a show-er actually) but never been the least bit shy about peeing in public. i have a couple friends like that, and i try to bring them ‘out’ but there’s just too much anxiety i guess…their bladder just freezes.
I’m pee shy, though not as bad as I used to be. Even being in a private bathroom with the door locked can be a problem if I sense someone might try to come in not knowing it is occupied. I’ve learned over the years to just focus on the wall tile and occupy my mind, which usually solves the problem. Cum shy too like Noyes. That’s even worse.
yes I usually am pee shy, since I can remember, but hate it, why can’t I just pee one someone/other people are around me.
Ya, always have been but I’m now 40 and can say it has gotten better. I’ve figured out that for me it to do only with having my crotch viewable. If there is a divider and no one standing behind me, I’m fine. But if anyone can actually see me piss, nope ain’t happening. Doesn’t matter how well I know him.
Wish I was like Terry though. A few times when I’m really drunk I’ve been able to do that.
My friends tease me a little because while I am pee shy I don’t have any problem having sex in front of people 🙂
Has nothing to do with not wanting guys to see my penis, just can’t pee standing next to someone. Was a real bitch for awhile when I had to be drug tested regularly, had to drink tons of espresso and water on the way there so that my bladder was bursting when I arrived, otherwise I could never go.
I’m not pee shy at all. I also LOVE piss-troughs. I like peeing with other dudes. it’s fun.
I like pissing on guys and getting pissed on so I’m definitely not!
I’m with Terry – I’m not at all pee shy, but, I can’t do number 2 with someone in an adjacent stall. It’s creepy.
Shy peer?…fuck no…have a big cock n luv to show it off…in bed or bathroom…n the club bathrooms luv to whip it out for all the fuck bois to see…n if they are lucky they can get a taste of my meat or have it deep inside their sweet boi hole…
Oh, and Noyes, I’m actually “cum shy” too. I almost NEVER cum. It’s infuriating!
I am a very shy pee’r. I have always disliked being naked in front of other men, from high school shower rooms to present. I think its because I feel so “small” in comparison. 🙂
I am only pee shy if there is somebody already using a urinal and I have to use one next to him. I just cannot go. Was at a sporting event had to piss bad and went to go and bathroom was full of guys. I tried but just had to zip/wash and come back. Now, If I am already going and others come in that is not a problem. I cannot pee if Boyfriend is watching.
Not remotely.
No problems.
But I used to be, terribly. Haha I remember several times just having to walk away and wash my hands so as to indicate success. But I used to be a lot more gay acting and I think that had something to do with it.
Not pee shy at all never have been. Lucky i guess.
Now the power of suggestion gets me and this thread made me need to pee!!!!!
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Bashful bladder here, especially around urinals. So it’s always a nice private stall for me, but even then it’s hard to get started if the restroom is full of strangers.
A friend suggested multiplication exercises as a brain distraction—mentally running through “three times two equals six, three times three equals nine, etcetera”. Sometimes works, sometimes doesn’t.
Took me a while to be able to use the urinals with dividers. Happened cause in high school the bathrooms were usually full, and when I had to go, had to use the urinal. If there’s no divider though, I just can’t go. At all, unless I’m completely alone in the bathroom. I’m just not comfortable with guys being able to see the pee.
Thanks to chronic grade school bullying I am extremely pee shy still as an adult with nice 8′ dick. I could jack off and cum with other guys but never could piss with a guy…… Years ago at a busy straight bar there were only wide open troughs. I had severe cramping and had to stop drinking.
I always use a stall. Hate urinals. Not only for the fact of pee shyness but hate the splashback. Where I worked for a while, they had a trough. Hated it.
yup — pee shy here
and it sucks!
Oh my god.
I was at the Heretic in ATL a couple years ago, my second night ever in Atlanta, just moved up from a small town on an island. Very sheltered.
We got inside, I was already nervous as fuck, needed to piss, my friend’s like, ‘Oh, go down through there, that’s the sanctuary, take a right, through the hallway at the end’.
I walked right through a fucking black ass hallway where there were thirty or forty people fucking in the dark, practically running because I didn’t want to get something on my new boots.
I get to the bathroom.
AND IT’S ALL FUCKING TROUGHS.
God, I almost cried.
My friend was dying laughing from the dance floor, sent me to the ONE toilet in the damn place.
I come out, and this big, 6’4″, 6’5″ silver daddy with biiiig muscles was like, ‘Hi. My name is Mike.’ Near shit myself.
Swore I’d never go back.
Man, I love Heretic.
In other words. Yea. Just a bit. ._.
heres a short story of mine…
“The Stall”
From the time I was in kindergarten leaving the garden of children to go to the potty I was dumbfounded by the sight of the urinal.
I was thinking to myself, “Holy cow, what is that thing?” But then I realized “Hey there’s water flowing out of it, cool!” I wasn’t in a hurry to go yet. I walked along the sticky bathroom floor passing amongst the maze of paper towel clumps. I turned around frightened at the sight of the 7th grader. I was freaking out thinking to myself “Oh my gosh, Big Kid!
Don’t pummel me. Man you’re freaky ahh!” Then it happend,
Oh what I would do to start this over again. I saw the 7th grader walk over to the waterfall machine and me being the hearing imapired and all, even I heard the tinkling. I then realized it was the pee-pee machine. I walked over to the furthest one away from the stinky 7th grader to pee and I felt at ease. Or I thought I was.
He gave me the dirtiest nasty gut-wrenching smirk. I could not pee, I could not think, I was terrified. I zipped up my pants and scurried into the nearest stall to get away from it all and to finally feel comfortable. I was in my own little world now gently tinkling into the toilet bowl, relieved and ecstatic as each droplet poured out of me. When I got older I still chose the stall over the waterfall. Even when I change for PE I choose the private section of where there’s no one to stare at me in my personal vulnerable state. Today if I have a choice to have the stall I’ll take it, I realized now it`s not a big deal. There’s even some benefits such as; I have less of a chance of peeing on myself since I have the freedom to pull my pants down. It’s the waterfall that makes me think to myself I’ll always have the toilet at home to look foward to at the end of the day.
Yes, I most certainly am. I NEVER use urinals, and ALWAYS use cubicles…
I boil this issue down to the very first time I used the bathroom in primary school… The year 6 boys were there too and they laughed at me etc. etc. Even since then, I have used cubicles. I suppose I am just a modest guy too… It’s funny though, because I don’t have a small penis haha. Who knows though…
Although I do think it all comes down to that first day in Kindergarten…
Not pee shy here never really have been . Just have to watch out for the woody that pops happens every so often while I am standing there lol
ONLY when im at a bar or club
nope. never. not even a little. I even find myself getting into competitions as to who can pee the longest.
Way shy bladder, I’ve walked out of quite a few bathrooms without actually being able to go. If I have to go bad enough it will start after a while, but short of that sometimes it’s either a stall or give up and try again later.
And forget those big open trough ones, that ain’t happening unless I have to go so bad that I already wet my pants.
It used to be an issue during the first year of my enlistment with the Navy. No stall dividers, period. So we overcame that shy-bladder thing by the time we left bootcamp.
Our berthing areas onboard the ship had “heads” (bathrooms) that had dividers, so it was never an issue when it came time for a good piss. And it was quite common to hold a conversation with the shipmate one stall over. Total sausage-fest.
And of course we had the random monthly urinalysis (operation golden flow), where we were closely monitored as we did our business at the piss-pot in the presence of the designated pecker-checker (to prevent one from tainting the sample).
Then again, a bathroom at a gay bar can easily cease operations since the motives to peek are more than obvious…lol.
Bashful bladder indeed… It sucks!
I’d love to walk up to a urinal and just whip it out, god knows I’ve got nothing to be ashamed of downstairs, but I just can’t do it.
Even at work we have two stalls and it drives me insane, I can’t if anybody else is in there with me. Makes coordinating using the bathroom a pain in the ass, especially when I drink so much water.
Out and with a bunch of strangers or in a noisy restroom it’s fine, but still needs so much concentration it’s not even funny.
Man, can we just talk about how hot the pics accompanying this post are? Especially number one (I Maverick Men) and number three. Not particularly into WS myself (the cold reality of it gets in the way), but I definitely understand the headtrip involved. Intensely hot, masculine, physical. Mmm.
I’m like Brad, can’t ever pee in front of anyone.
I think it started in the Boy’s room in grade school…everybody went at the same time at the start of recess, and other kids would be standing impatiently behind you yelling “come on, hurry up!”
Now I have to use the toilet with a door, which is embarrassing when there’s a line of guys, a urinal opens up and I have to pass.
I’ve also left the Men’s room without peeing at all.
It’s so funny at the stories we tell ourselves to justify our behaviors and actions. I believe that we all have a lot of issues around our bodies and their functions and that’s passed on to us. Just the fact that some guys still call it “number 1” and “number 2” says that they’re uncomfortable with their natural body functions and are holding on to shame. If you look at all the above comments you can see how many guys “used to be” pee shy but got past it. This tells you that it’s all mental or emotional and not a physcial issue. I understand being uncomfortable about peeing or showing your cock to a friend because of social issues but the issue that results in being “pee shy” is just your body telling you that there is an old issue that needs to be healed. Peeing is a natural part of our body’s processing and functioning. When you can make your peace with your body, your pee and even your poop, you’ll have complete control over these functions and great things, more than just the ability to pee around others, will come from it.
Ahhh at last, a pee shy support group!! Well, not as bad as I used to be.. spent many an evening in my youth in agony at rock concerts and football games ready to explode. As an older adult, it comes and goes – reading graffiti or reciting the Declaration of Independence usually will get me started.. and its odd – can have a problem in a rest room, but then can go outside and pee in the parking lot with people walking by no problem. Usually opt for stall ;o) As a child, my room was next to the bathroom with thin walls, so I got to hear everyones business in the house – which was gross as hell, and I think contributed to this whole thing.
It ironic I’m such a shameless hussy when it comes to sex; but when it comes to defecation and urination, I want that privacy. Of course, I did have two onery older brothers growing up and I couldn’t fart without them sniffing it, so there’s a lot of it right there! LOL!!!
I dont use urinals because I aint standing in someone elses piss. Urinals are just messy and gross. In fact, most public restroom designers are eliminating them from their layouts. Eljer already stopped producing a urinal last year.
i could pee with the guy in the last picture
Yes I am pee shy. It’s funny this is a topic today because it happened today when I was in the mens room at my school. I had to leave out pee later. It’s like my penis freezes up
I am very pee shy! I try to sing whilst on the urinal or simply queue to use a cubicle. The funniest thing that happened was when I was alone at a nude bar toilet when a hot guy stood beside me. I choked and went completley flaccid*
I’m pee shy, I´m just can’t do it if someguy is beside me.. the worst thing? I get an erection and my pee stop!!
I am a nudist…so, I guess that means I basically have no problems showing any and all parts of my body, including my cock…with that being said, I am completely pee shy…about the only way I can easily pee with others around is if I have had too much alcohol and the urine just seems to never stop flowing…I hate going into public restrooms to find there are no barriers between urinals or those large troughs…if a place does not have more private urinals, I will generally try to use the stall with the sit-down toilet…
Paruresis (pronounced /ˌpɑrəˈriːsɪs/[citation needed] PAR-ə-REE-sis) is a type of phobia in which the sufferer is unable to urinate in the (real or imaginary) presence of others, such as in a public restroom. It most commonly affects males, though there are female sufferers too. The analogous condition that affects bowel movement is called parcopresis.
Calling this a VERY common problem among guys both straight and gay would be an understatement. It has to do w/ culture. If you grew up in a house w/o brothers or never grew up peeing w/friends you are more likely to suffer from this. It’s very similar to a panic attack but just while peeing.
I had it for years, went into Marines and got over it really quick. then after active duty it came back but I’ve found the more comfortable I am around someone the easier it is to go but if some strange dude walks up beside me, I lock up… I can push til I’m soaked in sweat, the muscles clamped down until I’m sure person is gone. Alcohol does help lessen it so it’s both mental and physical.
I find a few times that affect me … if I’m going just in case, then I’ll be pee shy. Also if it is quiet … a noisy bathroom, no problem, then no one can hear if I am or am not peeing.