Believe it or not, there's an art to finger-banging. It may seem like it's all elementary–"Just stick your finger in the hole and move it around"–but there's so much more you need to consider, and it's not something that just comes naturally to everyone. Here are a few tips to maximize your skills as a finger-banger…
Always use lubrication: Since men don't (ahem) naturally lubricate themselves, it's important to get his hole wet before invading it with your man-fingers. In some cases, saliva is perfectly acceptable, especially when the fingering is shallow and combined with a rimjob. Some guys will even get turned on if you spit on their asshole and rub it in, but I wouldn't necessarily recommend that on a first date.
Remember that you have fingernails: And they shouldn't be sharp or long, as they may cut or irritate your partner's insides. All hangnails should be dealt with prior to your encounter. A finger cot (also known as a "finger condom") can make things a little smoother on your bottom. They're extremely inexpensive and can easily be purchased in bulk from a medical supplies website.
It's not for everybody: Every man who loves to get fucked isn't going to love getting fingered. Start slowly and be gentle. If he's receptive, bring on your A-game.
Forget the in and out: Fingers are much more rigid than cocks, so it may not feel as good when they're thrusting in and out of your partner's hole. A little bit of these motions won't hurt, but try focusing on massaging his "g-spot". Don't know where that is? You shouldn't be ashamed, because of plenty of guys actually don't. Let's put it this way, if your man is lying on his back with his legs in the air, place your fingers in with the palm up and use a light "come hither" movement with your finger. You'll feel a "button-like" area. Once you've found it, apply pressure to it. Massage it. Make love to that shit, because it's your best friend.
Don't forget your mouth and other hand: While you're busy with your fingers in his ass, remember that you can focus on his other parts. Blow him, massage his legs, play with his nipples, kiss him… whatever makes him moan!
These are just a few of my personal tips. I'm sure a few of the expert finger-bangers out there can add to this. And what about the guys who like getting fingered? What drives you particularly wild?
– Dewitt
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I hate fingers in my butt, feels uncomfortable.
Same here. Fingers don’t feel good to me at all.
But I do like to finger guys while rimming them.
ideally this button should be soft like your nose and not hard like your knuckles.
If you finger too aggressively, it can be more painful than pleasurable. Do it right, though, and it drives me absolutely wild. Especially if he’s sucking my cock and playing with my balls and taint at the same time.
Personally, I like the prostate work. My guy doesn’t care for that, but loves rimming or fingering the rim. I guess everyone’s different.
I always use a glove with plenty of lube I really want 2 get him n 2 it. Sometimes a couple of fingers up a nice tight muscle ass really losening ( not 2 lose )up his hole 4 much bigger things 2 cum LOL ….