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I like what he said in the video but he forgot 1 important thing first.
You feel more relaxed and comfortable being the bottom after you clean yourself out inside first.
Get a shower wand you can attach in your shower or a hot water bottle kit with attachments or disposable douche. Knowing your clean inside can make you more comfortable having anal sex and the water inside can also help to loosen you up and relax you as well.
Ask your partner to rim your clean ass and play with it for a while so your more into what is happening. Take your time and take control of the penetration and work it in at your own pace not his.
Great Advice!
I disagree with the douching comment, especially for a first timer. Doing that can be abrasive to sensitive tissue and actually cause more pain than is necessary. Let’s be honest guys – no matter how much you flush up there, it’s never gonna be 100% clean. However, for a first timer, taking the advice that Colby gave will definitely set you on the right track to having a pleasurable first experience.
It makes me feel so much better that even Colby gets that initial ‘Ow this really fucking hurts Imma have to wait a minute’ reaction.
Lets face it though it is not an enjoyable situation when you run into some messy and smelly play and kinda kills the mood and what is happening for starters.
And usually cleaning out inside causes the body to produce some mucus that lines the walls a bit. The lube used should handle the rest.
Cleaning out first is a definite must. However, I wouldn’t recommend buying a shower kit or hot water bottle kit right off the bat. The shower kits are fairly expensive. A disposable enema will be fine for the first time, just remember that you’ll have to refill it a few times.
this applies to what I’m going to do tonight. Not my first but I’m not seasoned. The cleaning part is annoying me. Didn’t wanna do an enema but the water isn’t working that well
Ok as a fairly experienced bottom, as important as douching is the other thing that will make your life easier is to consume lots of fibre when eating. I have a fibre supplement with every meal and it makes getting clean so much easier. You need less water to get clean and when you do go to the toilet everything comes out easier and cleaner. It sounds weird but its true fibre is your friend if you’re a bottom.
Also to this day I can’t just sit on a cock and just slowly pushing the penis into the rectum isn’t much better. I find the best way to “get it in” at the start is to use lots of lube and massage you’re hole with the cock head, just work it in a little and pull it back and repeat. Soon your hole will open up and it slides right in with little to no pain. this is the case with first time or seasoned pros, you’re arse needs time to allow something to penetrate it, so don’t rush it.
And lastly don’t forget to reapply the lube, you don’t want it to start hurting when your top starts really going to town and you don’t want they condom to break.
after you douche take your time pushing all the water out, some water may move beyond the rectum into the large intestine (feeling like air in the stomach) and come running out at the wrong time when the rectum relax.
So what then?
I found all you really need to do to make sure you’re clean is at least an hour or so before hand.. Go for number 2s.. Then have a shower/bath making sure you clean about a fingers depth inside.. I find it best to use an Anti-Bacterial Liquid Hand Soap for this.. Rinse and repeat.. And then you’re free to have good clean fun.. I have near had any problems using this method..
Not sexy at all, but can we have a post on people’s cleaning experiences and the difficult parts of sex for tops and more so, bottoms?
So True; The saying goes ‘you are what you eat’ If you have a poor diet this will also reflect in the bedroom. I recommend lots of Yoga (Hot) this really improves your overall general health as well a sexual, and having a diet of fish, fruit, veg, carbs. Since making these changes, I can honestly say it has improved my life
p.s. Please do remeber you should have the freedom to say STOP at any time.. !!
That is your right..
Ops.. that should be: I have never had any problems using this method..
I’m not necessarily new to bottoming, but i’m new to bottoming consistently- as in, we live in different cities and thus our visits are usually a weekend or so at a time at either mine or his. How do you do the cleaning without drawing attention to the fact of what you’re doing in this situation?
One thing to remember is that those Fleet enemas that you get at the store have a chemical in the liquid that will make you shit for HOURS. So, twist off the cap, empty it out, rinse it out good, and then refill with hot water. That small amount of liquid can be pretty effective!
Soap up my butt gives me abdominal cramps for hours afterwards :/ Apparently something to do with chemicals in the soap, I’d hazard a guess it being an alkaline and us being partly acidic. tbh I don’t know.
If you buy the wand and hose attachment seperately hose at lowes or hd and the wand from your local porn store. I got mine for less than $25 in this manner.
remember you should use tepid water NOT HOT, NO HEAVY PRESSURE. I fill until i can feel it in my large intestine. (not that i am into ff; a good friend who is taught me this). If you deep clean you can order a longer wand from fort troff that is 18 inches. this gets all the way(takes a few to get use to it) also helps open the hole.
roll your tale bone under your body so the anus is direct. holding your buttocks out like a squat takes much longer. feet shoulder width or more apart (watch the torque of your knee over your feet) roll your posterior under like tucking your tail btw your legs breathe deep as you exhale insert the wand. (this helps with penile entry as well) I use a good non water based lube when cleaning out in the shower. holding your stomach out (like being bloated) allows the water to flow in and out easier don’t push like you are having a bowel movement, open the stomach, breathe and relax it will expel easily.
This will help with all that deep ass play or that nice 10+ cock (my fav). Now get me in a movie TIM or RAWAND ROUGH.
this is very true.. but you should only use a pH5.5 balanced liquid soap..
Only use a pH5.5 balanced liquid soap
If you and your partner are into it, some rimming before getting fucked can reeeeally help 😛
I have heard alot about this and have even tried it myself, Coffee. There are many porn stars and seasoned bottoms that will tell you that this is one of the best clean outs.
Didn’t watch the vid so I didn’t realize he left this out, but this is the advice that I give to everyone (especially girlfriends) if they are thinking about trying anal.
It really is so much easier to enjoy the experience if you’ve removed the worry of a potential mess.
Also, you should clean out a little while before getting to it. There can be increased sensitivity if you over do it, but a little bit of planning and prep makes for a much better time.
This was a great post topic. Seriously, when I started bottoming, I didn’t know anything really…nothing mortifying ever happened per se but naturally there were stumbles that could have been avoided had I just had access to some sound advice. So seeing all of it here makes me happy.
You are right but avoiding the fleet enemas all together is the best idea that way the chemicals don’t get into the water system at all. Instead go to the female section of the drug store and get a refillable douce kit (nozzel and small water container…very reusable). Fill that with cool to room temperature water rather than hot as hot water causes the tissue in the area to expand and the hot water can cause the inner sphincter to relax too much and lead to more of a mess later on when you least want it. One more note to those reading this…small amounts of water repeatedly is better than trying to get a large volume in. This process is about rinsing and not soaking.
The water should be getting what you need. Think about using smaller amounts (say 1/4 cup of water), quickly rinse and repeat. Do not lay down on your side and do the things that the enema kits describe…that lets the liquid go in too deep and thru the inner sphincter. Rinse, shake, release, repeat until clean. Use cooler water too and don’t hold it in very long if at all.
If a guy is going to be fucking you and he can’t appreciate any time you take to be clean for the experience, that is HIS problem. Get a disposable douche kit, take a few minutes in the bathroom to clean (see my comments above) and call it good. Your man should be grateful that you are making the effort to keep things cleaner. Shit happens…literally and the sooner we make peace with that and recognize that bodies do things that maybe we don’t always want, the happier we’ll be.
I feel worse after a cleansing. My stomach hurts for days. So I wouldn’t suggest it. Eat more fibre and empty your bowels before hand.
I agree this was a very good post and very informative for first timers and even some experienced men as well it sounds like. i was fortunate on my first time that the guy i was with was very gentle and patient especially since he was rather large. He told me that he would let me decide how fast and how much i would take. he laid on the bed on his back and had me sit down on his cock letting me decide how much went in and how fast it went in. He was very patient and even though he was large I was able to take the entire cock after a few minutes of allowing me to adjust to the size and once that felt good was able to ride his cock until he came and he made me cum without een jacking my cock.
Your are probably doing something wrong than. Like feeling you’re hole up too much. You’re only trying to clean that first foot or so inside you. If you’re starting to feel pressure on your stomach than you’ve put too much in.
Colby… will you be my willing partner? PLEASE
I would advice not to use numbing gels, they may mask
the pain but they also mask the limit you can take and hide the
damage.
My friend made the mistake of using some and he tore despite his boyfriend taking his time.
Wait, I just read in men’s sexual health book that gentle pushing, like you’re having a bowel movement, relaxes and opens the sphincter -?
Wait, I just read in men’s sexual health book that gentle pushing, like you’re having a bowel movement, relaxes and opens the sphincter -?
What position should you be in then, if not lying down like it says on the enema kit? Also, why is that bad if water gets into the inner sphincter?
What position should you be in then, if not lying down like it says on the enema kit? Also, why is that bad if water gets into the inner sphincter?
It’s easiest to sit on the toilet so that your body is upright. An enema is about clearing the intestines. The chemicals cause that to happen. With assplay, you really don’t want that to happen. You are really only looking to clear the anal cavity and not the intestines. It doesn’t hurt anything if the water goes into the inner sphincter but that’s just not your target area. You don’t need to fill the cavity to rinse it out and that is the key. Too much water or water held in too long begins to get absorbed by the lining and then 20 or 30 minutes later, out it comes right when you don’t want it. If you get one of the small reusable douche kits from a pharmacy with the little plastic bag, letting the water out of the bag for about a count of 10 should suffice. Then repeat, repeat, repeat until it’s clear water coming out. When it comes to incoming water, less is more. This process should work for normal sex play.
See my response below.
Wow this is all really good to know. Thanks so much. I had no idea.
Buttsex newbie here. Know a good website for more of this kind of info? Got all sorts of questions here. My hole’s too tight, and there’s other stuff I’m wondering about.
Hey Spinnen. Well my stuff comes from personal experience and from my professional work (working with guys teaching them to enjoy assplay). There is a guy who wrote a very nice piece but there is one tiny part I totally disagree with and it’s #7 in his douching instructions. http://anexperimentintruth.blogspot.com/2012/01/bottoming-101.html He says try to hold it for 5 minutes…do NOT do that!!! Hold it in for about 5 SECONDS and then expel. Holding it in for a long time allows the tissue to absorb the water and it WILL come out in about 30-45 minutes right when you want it to come out least. Think of douching as just rinsing out your anal cavity. Some water in, shake a bit, all water out. Other than that his stuff is good. If you happen to be in the Seattle area I’m happy to work with you on that “hole’s too tight” thing. That tightness comes from anal fears and life stresses that you hold in your asshole. Release the fear, release the stress, open the hole and enjoy. It’s a process so be patient with yourself. Patience will get you much further than beating yourself up or using poppers or numbing cream to get you the assplay you seek.
Do people always clean…It seems if someones having a one night stand with someone they just met, that wouldnt be the case…Or do guys really clean themselves before going to the bar on a Sat night. Its one thing that freaked me out before when a guy’s shit started getting all over my sheets and my dick. I thought I was going to throw up and that memory still haunts me. I start feeling Im selfish because I want oral and thats about it. Plus from my memories being with girls, the condom thing didnt really feel good but Id never have anal sex without a condom…the first 2 guys who were my gay role models both told me I was too conservative for wanting to use condoms and they both died in their 30s
I have never been able to bottom.. I agree that you need to find someone you can trust but unless you can develop an LTR, that’s very hard. It freaks me out because it hurts; I dont understand how to be comfortable. I dont want to do drugs. Then topping is hard too…People say Im too thick or theyre not clean and it has freaked me out. So I feel something wrong with me because I havent really had anal sex, and Im embarrassed to tell anyone..especially cuz Im not in my 20s anymore. I think I once had it when I was younger and was very drunk. So I need help and wish I could find someone…Ive even thought of hiring a sex therapist or escort because I feel its a hump I need to get over. WHen I watch it in porn, it turns me on but then in live action, Im freaked out. Same with rimming and stuff…when it comes to reality, I get turned off. I mostly just get oral done to me…I even have trouble giving oral, and I think all of this would be different if I were in love. Dont know what to do…I am a super horny Scorp but taking care of it myself is getting old
If I have any interest in meeting someone with the possibility of sex Yes I will clean my tail end. Even before gong to car shows with my own show car I know there is a possibility of running into someone that might show interest in more than my car so I always clean out before I go like I clean the car.
You just never know what life may send your way so batter safe than sorry.
Warm water not too hot and cold water is a bad idea.
No need to fill yourself up into the bowels no dick is gonna be up there that far anyways.