“If a guy sleeps with another man, then he’s not straight.”
I’ve always shuddered when people subscribe to this bullshit logic. Hard dicks are hard dicks, and friction is friction! Things happen. If I got drunk tonight, hooked up with a chick and blew my load, would I be any less gay tomorrow morning? Would I be required to identify as bisexual based on that singular experience? Nope! I’d still want to bury my face in hairy man asses… So why can’t we accept that some straight men have or have had sex with other men?
We touched upon this topic briefly in last week’s Straight Guys Are Gay column, but today we’re going to specifically focus on the concept of “conversion”. I had a friend back in New York who swore up and down that he turned a married lawyer into a full-fledged gay man. The guy had been coming over and fucking him regularly. Their sex was allegedly so amazing that he talked about leaving his wife, and he did, but not for my friend.
You see, at some point, the lawyer disappeared and stopped responding to my friend’s e-mails for nearly a year. I tried to reason with him that he probably felt guilty about cheating on his wife, but I was very, very wrong about that… We were out at a bar one night, and my friend spotted his old fuck buddy grinding his ass against some muscle bear’s crotch. When he made an attempt to go talk to him, the pair quickly made a beeline for the exit.
He received an e-mail from the lawyer a few days later, explaining that he just got a divorce and started seeing someone else. My friend obviously felt betrayed by this knowledge—considering he was supposed to be that “someone else”—but he also took some strange pride in “transforming” this buttoned-up straight guy into a total cock slut.
But did he actually do anything? Or were the lawyer’s desires there all along, buried under a heaping pile of societal expectations, religious repression and other baggage? This is a very particular example, but what do you think overall—is it possible, even in the slightest sense, that a straight man could be “converted” by a homosexual experience?
– Dewitt
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I don’t know about conversion, but Brandon Lewis is my perfect man—looks, body, dick, voice.
The whole idea of “conversion” is based on very limited labels that are all bull and have no relationship to the complex nature of human sexuality.
Sexuality isn’t a black and white subject. There are no answers that will apply to everyone, well not in my opinion anyway. I wouldn’t say you can “convert” straight men but if they were open enough and horny I’d say some could be easy to sleep with.
That being said i read articles on “Heteroflexibility” I’m not great at explaining but google it, i found it quite interesting. Finally i read a story about some actor guy who was openly gay but ultimately ended up marrying a woman. Sometimes i think people may not even be fully aware of their own sexuality. Its just one of lifes amazing mysteries.
Nope.
I’ve been with both straight men, and straight married men. These men the married ones mind you were faithfully committed to their families and would never leave them, yet they fucked me and they’ve fucked other men as well. I believe sex is sex, do I think what they did with me was wrong yes for them but who am I to judge I got what I wanted from them.
Agree. Brandon Lewis wearing only socks could keep me from converting.
I guess for me it brings to mind the whole gay conversion (ex-gay ministries) that somehow doesn’t work out very well. Men in prison have sex with men because it is what’s available. Sex is an animalistic behavior and love is something totally different.
Brandon Lewis can be my husband and Christian Wilde can be Fuck Buddy!!! Love those two men.
about as possible to convert a gay into a str8 guy lol
I dislike labels.Either/or never really came about until the church took control of things. There are so many shades of desire and opportunity. There is something to said for camaraderie, trust and intimacy. I think of “gay” in cultural terms, and there are aspects of the culture I dislike. I do enjoy the company of men and male bonding – orgasm not required. If “gay” men want to be free why don’t they allow other men to be free and not badger them subscribing to their culture/label…the badger to me is just their discomfort with themselves.
Clicking to read this article game me hope that there was a voice of sanity/reason within this site. I was disappointed. I would have preferred a scenario similar to me and a bud of many years – he is a rugged, aggressive dude and a babe magnetic. Yet out of friendship etc. we get together in an intimate setting every now and then.
I reckon ANY “straight” guy who sleeps with another guy was never “straight” in the first place…
Well I personally don’t believe you can “convert” a str8 Guy I mean a real one anyway and they are out there unless they have feelings or urges for other guys …one might experiment and decide its not for them but if they keep coming back then well all bets are off lol…and that whole gay for pay might be a hot fantasy but I don’t believe that if ur totally str8 you wouldn’t be turned on by another Guy …I’m gay and a girl does nothing for me even if I’m drunk lol
I was married for 20 years and started doing the man2man thing about 14 years into that. There’s no way I would say I was “converted,” more like I was curious and acted on it. Now that I’m divorced, I play with a lot more men than women but I still like it both for variety. I would definitely classify myself as truly bisexual, because I love eating ass as much as pussy and a tight hole is a tight hole.
I think it depends on who you’re converting and why. If you’re trying to sleep with a straight man that you find attractive, how far are you willing to go to “convert” them? To me this thought of converting someone of either sexual preference into the other is somewhat cruel and oppressive. It’s one thing if a married man hits on you and you accept versus trying to go out and actively “convert” a straight married man into one fun night. Conversion implies power over that which is being converted, which is a more worrisome idea than the actual possibility of the conversion, I think.
I realize we’re all just talking. However, it’s kind of astounding, the Kinsey report came out on the sexuality of the American Male in 1948. I’m aware that the report has flaws, however the thinking behind the report is sound. What is kind of funny to me is that, 65 years later, and it still seems to be way ahead of its time.
I agree with jeff if you have sex with a guy you are not really “straight”Because a drunk man action is a sober man thinking.What a guy do when he is druck is what he wanted to do before he took one siip!!!!!!!!!
You aren’t converting anyone, you are helping them realize they aren’t all that straight. Its not like those ex-gay conversions with electrodes and brainwashing, its acceptance of who they truly are.
(bringing out the kinsey scale might be quite useful, indeed, in over-wrought discussions like these
it is very useful to keep in mind that sexuality is not something which should ever be simplified — it is a fool’s errand to attempt pigeon-holing that complex beast, after all)
barring some very extreme exceptions (which, i feel confident in asserting, will be more to do with dramatic physical trauma than pure psychological persuasion/finesse), there is no such thing as magically making a guy, who had only been feeling sexual/emotional in interest in biologically-born (or/and, potentially, post-op) females, become only become interested in biologically-born (or/and, potentially, post-op) males, to the permanent-exclusion of females
period
you can’t just put a brand-new sexuality into someone; that’s not how it works: you can only be the first one who draws out (or begins drawing out) what was already there, within a person; if you’d not mind indulging this off-topic aside of mines: i’d like to theorerize, it is still unknown just how many of us would willingly seek out sexual/intimate relations with the same sex, if there was nothing stopping us ….. who knows how many bi-sexuals there actually are
speaking of: no intelligent person would make this statement —
“If a guy sleeps with another man, then he’s not straight.”
rather, an intelligent person would declare, If a guy repeatedly sleeps with another man, then he should not try claiming complete heterosexuality anymore.
it is easy to say, “well, what does it matter?”
and you would be right, in that ‘who sleeps with whom, and how’ (within reasonable legal confines of course) really should not matter
but, there are still some nasty people out there who aren’t as enlightened as you and me are, and are not above showing us what they think about “deviancy” — it is they who continue to make human sexuality the center of their twisted, mal-adjusted universes.
until they’re stopped, we “deviants” should make our presence known to those misguided souls