Most men are taught from a very early age that it isn’t particularly desirable to cry in public (or anywhere for that matter). We’ve sat through heavily emotional situations–from sad movies to deaths in the family–holding back tears with a giant lump in our throats.
So here’s today’s question! Does it take a “real man” to flip off societal norms and allow himself to cry in public? Or does a “real man” restrain himself and hold it all in? Frankly, screw the whole bullshit “real man” mentality! What is your personal policy on crying and its relation (or lack thereof) to your own masculinity?
– Dewitt
It definitely takes a real man to cry!! Men are human, too. We have the right feel!
A real man is in touch with his emotions and doesn’t shy from them.
real men cry. only fools allow themselves to bury emotions. you must face them and let them go or they will fester and infect your being. and real men show strength and stand out from others so in essence only a real man can allow himself to cry in the face of a society that says its wrong
definitely a sign of a healthy, balanced and sensitive type of guy- provided it’s not on a daily basis :o) When my husband cries- I love him a little more- every time.
I can attest, real men *DO* cry.
– of course, it’s usually after hours of spanking, nipple torture, cock teasing and/or electro play, all the while tightly restrained, but yes, they do cry 😉
But in all seriousness: If it feels appropriate, it probably is.
-boiconstrictor
http://boiconstrictor.blogspot.com/
On the morning before my Father passed away after 2 weeks of around the clock hospital visual my heart and soul could bare no more and the tears began 2 openly flow as I painfully tried 2 restrain myself my Aunt simply said GO AHEAD ! Crying make you no less of a man …. 17 years later and I still can remember that moment standing at the top stairs and realizing for the first time that my Father was dying and with in 24 hours he was GONE . So in paraphrasing my Aunt GO AHEAD ! it makes you no less of a MAN !!!
It depends entirely on the situation. Emotionally crippling situations such as the death of loved ones is entirely understandable. Men are afterall human.
i very rarely cry in public (the above mentioned situation the rare exception) but there have been times when my stress levels hit a level of absurdity, and im sure a bit of a cry would have given me some release.
Ah well, in the end, i dont think the act of crying diminishes masculinity, but rather the reason for the tears. In many cases it demonstrates an inability to cope with life’s daily frustrations, or can be an attention seeking tool. In those cases, masculinity is the last thing they need to worry about losing 😉
Those who cry when genuinely touched or overwhelmed by emotions, good for you, for allowing yourself that basic need.
It’s all relative. Our WESTERN society dictates that men do not show emotion beyond anger and happiness. In many Eastern societies, stemming from the Mediterranean further east, its not considered masculine or otherwise to show emotion.
I was raised with the mindset that A)Men are the rocks in the society. We are always supposed to remain a solid emotional anchor for women and children to rely on. and B) There are those in the world who have it worse than you. So don’t waste your tears.
But, when watching movies, due to this mentality, I always get really choked up when men cry. :S Haha.Because when a western movie scripts a part with intense male emotion, you KNOW its a sad situation then :S Haha.
crying is manly as long as you aren’t crying about missing the sale at Barney’s
LOL Uncut99 !!!
This might sound bad…but a crying man is kinda sexy to me. I guess since we are kinda taught to not cry, when a man does cry in front of me I feel closer to him.
I cry anywhere no matter what people think.
Sometimes it’s all you can do.
I agree with Frogfin, a man who cries is attractive. It shows they have a heart and aren’t macho and tries to be rough as nails. When I was a boy, my grandmother died, and I cried. Even as an adult when I lost 2 more grandparents I cried and let it flow, I didn’t care. But I couldn’t stand it when my older male cousins were all sitting at the funerals, inside a church wearing sunglasses to hide their tears. To me that felt like disrespect.
Now it also depends on what you’re crying about. If you’re watching a really sad movie, then I’ll try and hold back the tears until you get a chance to watch it alone! LOL
Real men don’t give a fuck what other ‘real men’ are doing.
i may only be 20, but the last time i cried was only 16. my very best friend died in a car accident and i cried for days and days…ive experienced many deaths since and even close scares with my family but for some reason i honestly feel like i cried out all my tears that day of his funeral. nothing gets to me anymore…
but crying is sexy if a man doesnt mind doing it anywhere
I don’t see why not. If something legitimately upsets you to the point you feel the need to cry about it, then it should be okay to do so. That doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t need to “harden up”, though; crying over metaphorical spilt milk isn’t okay, regardless of gender.
There’s nothing wrong with crying in my opinion.
It’s also extremely endearing when a stereotypical masculine man wells up and can’t help but cry. Like that masculine kind of sob.
There’s nothing sexier than owning your feelings regardless of whether you’re a man or woman or whether your masculine or feminine.
There is nothing wrong with showing your emotions. I am from that era where men did not cry in public and you were less of a man if you did . I have put that thinking to the side and try and show my emotions when it is called for. I am 52 and I just saw my Dad cry for the first time about a year ago. I say the heck with society, you need to keep yourself emotionally healthy . If that means you shed a tear now and then I say go for it.
There is nothing per se wrong with being emotional and having a little cry. Whether you are a man, a woman or a child, being in touch with your feelings and being able to express those feelings is healthy and does NOT make you weakling.
The reason, however, why some people tear up sometimes makes the act of crying suspect. We all remember the cases of TV-evangelist and/ or Politicians who get caught with their pants down [at times literally 🙂 ] and then have a good cry during their press conferences, supposedly to show that they are really sorry! Those are the instances I find highly suspect and very manipulative.
it just shows you are human , and not a clone,,, unless your john Bonner ( agent orange) he cry’s at everything 😀 LOL
real men are allowed to cry, naturally.
but, the water•works had better not be over anything foolish or inconsequential.
concurrently..
..well, i don’t think anyone should have to cry more than 8 times in one’s life•time (after the age of 16, of course).
of course, not everyone shares the same tolerance or disposition, so some will will loose more easily than others.
it’s not nice to make fun of such individuals, as they’re not able to help but be what they are:
Sensitive Souls.