What am I? This is a common question I’ve received. It’s usually coming from younger men, all of whom are struggling to find a label and fit into this big gay world. Occasionally, it’s coming from a straight man, who’s curious about how he’d fit into that very-same gay world.
My feelings on this matter are conflicted. In general, if you want to attach yourself to a label, I feel that it should be self-appointed to a certain degree. Having someone tell you you’re a “____” would be the equivalent of someone else defining your sexuality. You’re not bisexual if you slept with a girl once (or a few times) and enjoyed it… Unless you identify as bisexual.
You might look like a bear or twink. Someone might point to you and call you a bear or twink… But maybe you don’t identify as a bear, twink or whatever the hell they’re calling you.
Now, with that said, labels of this nature can help as descriptive factors in the realm of Manhunt and beyond. When someone tells you they’re a “bear” or a “twink” (I’m sorry I keep using these two examples alone), you know what you’re getting into. You have a basic understanding of what they might look like, and you can paint a better picture as they provide more details.
This logic, however, becomes a problem when people misidentify themselves as a certain type. What if someone who’s thin and hairy says he’s a bear, even though he’s an otter? What if someone smooth and muscular says he’s a twink, even though he’s more of a jock/gym bunny? Disaster strikes! The world collapses! Your dick might lose an opportunity for a great connection!
Enter Noodles & Beef‘s Gay Cliques Census! Using actual data, which has been collected over the past few months, the designer/blogger provides your most accurate “gay clique” match based on a small amount of information—age, height, weight, waist & hairiness.