Random Question: What’s Your Dealbreaker?

What’s the one thing a guy can do or say that’ll completely turn you off? In other words, what do you consider your “dealbreaker”? We touched upon this topic for yesterday’s Just The Tips post, but I thought it was worth revisiting for this fun little conversation. Please try to be nice to one another, boys! I know it can be hard for you sometimes…

Although last night’s post may have indicated otherwise, I’m willing to forgive most spelling or grammar mistakes. But you know what really grinds my gears? Oh, I shouldn’t even bother telling you this time around! You’ll just make fun of me, even though ninety-percent of you would probably agree. 

– Dewitt

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  3. I was once making out with a guy on his bed and in the middle of it my eyes wandered over to his bookshelf where I saw the entire Twilight series. That did not sparkle with me.

  5. This should be really good…. considering how some can rip apart the hottest guys featured on here.

  10. Misrepresentation is a huge turn off for me. Don’t put how hot you are in your profile with old/touched up pictures then show up at my door with a gut overhanging your belt. One dude claimed he was ‘athletic’ and had a black belt in karate. He showed up, 5’6, 180lbs, pudgy, pale & gross.

    Be honest.

  13. i agree with Dak1975, i hate it when guys lie. one guy claim that he was 7 inches when he was actually not!

  14. Lack of honesty and lack of a decent vocabulary and grammar. I need to be able to have a decent conversation before and after. If I’m trying to have a discussion about, for example, films and then “he” changes the subject out of the blue with “soo.. whatre ur stats” or “how huge is yor cok”, I quickly lose interest.

  17. since you specifically spoke of things they can say or do, i will address that instead of physical features.

    usually nothing can kill it faster than a guy saying he is a republican. or a devout christian. either of them just get instantly worse if they try to defent those positions. it makes my penis and my brain run away as quickly as possible.

  18. I got down here and forgot what this thread was about after all those pics. Oh yea …

    As far as saying something? Not really. As to in person … smoker is a non starter … bad breath is hard to overcome – love kissing and damned good kisser. General hygiene – like a clean, fresh guy … no smell/sight of brown, nicely showered, though don’t mind sweaty man smell …

    Had first time ever … peeled back an uncut guy’s foreskin to find debris … unclean … turned him away.

    Fem? Will fuck a fem guy no problem, not gonna be a long term possibility but for a hookup … 🙂

  19. BAD TEETH, bad hygiene, and judgemental bitches like those who get turned off by political affiliation. I.E. some of the earlier posters.

    Glenn, it’s not weird. I hate being rimmed and just the thought of rimming someone else induces vomiting for me.

  20. Yes, I understand that the guy who is fem fa-tale and guys who have bad teeth or are toothless, even republicans (and to those of you who have a proclivity, democrats), guys with absolute deplorable hygene and the rest. Those are deal breakers. However, the deal breaker for me are those guys who’s profile list one age only to find out they are over 20 years past the age on their profile. I once met this guy who, on his profile, was 50 years, blond hear, athletic only to find out he was over 70, hardly any hair and most certainly hanging on to life by a thread. That is a deal breaker.

  21. Liberal dems who’ll vote for left-wing projects without the faintest notion of how to pay for them, Right-wing reps who have only a religious. moral stance and could care less about anything else, and a fem guy who likes to rim, then wants to kiss. Yech!!

  22. Closet cases. Pussies make me soft. Don’t have your cake and eat it too. fuck guys. but don’t pretend to be straight so you don’t have to deal with everything the rest of us do. That is probably my only deal breaker. anything else is good, I like differences in mates, I am around myself all day everyday, I’d like someone different to fuck/date/love.

  23. Men in their 40s. I know, I’m low 40’s myself. Seems like no man looks 40 … he either looks really good for his age or looks so much older than he is. Fortunately I am in the latter camp.

    That said, guys not matching their profile – age, pics, etc., that are instant rejects as the door opens. Next group is a bit more irritating … those that advertise themselves as into or being something their not. Can’t tell how many times I had an “aggressive alpha bottom” that shows up only to lay on their back and raise their legs. I fuck them, but it’s over quickly.

  25. If one is referring to a chance meeting or single date, the one thing that comes to mind that I would have trouble overlooking is poor hygene.

    For such a brief encounter I can ignore someone’s political views; pretend that bad manners don’t bother me and overlook all sort of physical preferences.

  26. Right winged bigoted idiots…fat, fem fools…someone that cant cary on a conversation…out of shape men…age doesnt matter…have seen twinks and older men that need to exercise…and those that have bad bathing habits and the like…

  29. Aids. No aids please. Or other stds that cant go away without meds. none of those pleze

  32. Lack of smarts and rude boorish behavior is the dealbreaker for me. I can really get into a guy who has an OS based on good social behavior and who realizes that while it might be for a few minutes, hours, or more, they take the time to treat the person they’re with the way they themselves would want to be treated. Yep, I’m old school in that regard. Probably not gonna happen either if I see in a profile mispelled words like intellegent or definately. Eye mean why wright write wen ewe kin caul sum won up and avoid typing all together 🙂 (By the way, I love HOMOnyms).

  33. I’m gonna go out on a limb here, and say that everyone who said “No Smokers”, has probably never been a smoker themselves, or been with a smoker, for that matter. We’re really not as atrocious as all you Non-Smokers make us out to be. Go ahead and light one up, then MAYBE, I’ll actually give YOU the time of day…that said, My “Deal Breaker” would have to be people like you…and total Queens…Hmm, I guess in this case, they’re one in the same!!! 😀

  35. I can’t stand when the person starts being judgmental, telling me how that dude has a big nose, how the other has a weird hair and all.

    “Go Home”, I say.

  37. Taller than me. I know its silly, but I’m fairly tall (6′ 3″) and I just really don’t like someone being taller than me. I used to know this guy I would nearly drool over everytime I saw him, but when i finally stood next to him I realized he was taller than me and something went “Wah wahhhhhh”

  38. I agree with WillAct723 – my dealbreaker is guys who have dealbreakers. I don’t care to socialize, or sexualize, with self-absorbed, judgemental gay bigots. A Republican? Who cares. A Democrat? Big deal. A smoker? Light ’em if you got ’em. Don’t have a perfect body or age? Neither does anyone else, including everyone on manhunt. There isn’t a single member who isn’t in some way a skank, including me.

  40. I was licking this guys balls once and he farted; kinda killed the moment! Another time I was getting ready to fuck this guy, and he pulled back the covers on the bed, and there was a used rubber in his bed. I ended up fucking him, but it was an “almost” deal breaker!

  41. Guys who bareback, (STDs and AIDS are still a problem)
    Drug users,
    Liars about their profile,
    Bad hygiene
    overly fem guys

  43. I have one dealbreaker. It’s big enough that if you manage to pull it off, I don’t just not like you, I hate you.

    This dealbreaker is so easy to not do it’s not funny, but it’s so common it annoys me.

    Pretend to be someone you’re not to attract me, or one of my friends. Fake people piss me off to no end.

    In other news, I <3 the new design on the website, after getting use to it.

  45. People have hit on some good ones, like bad teeth, smokers, and (the worst) liars. I have to add one that’s recently come across my radar, and I feel a little bad saying it, but it was a dealbreaker for me:

    Unibrows. Sorry guys, but tweezers are cheap. If it grows in between the two brows, you gotta clean it up. And for the record, I’d have a horrible unibrow myself if I didn’t tend to it.

  47. Guys who impose gender-identification standards, group sex, ignorance in any manner of anything.

  48. I think everyone has a dealbreaker. Even the ones who said that they don’t. It’s human.
    Mine is dishonesty and not being clean.

  49. I agree with tom & willact723

    Its seriously a dealbreaker for someone to be a republican or democrat? Really? Wow.

  52. A few of my “deal-breakers” are:

    Republicans and/or anyone who voted for Bush(s)/Reagan or Nixon, Uncleanliness, Drugs, Drama-Queens, Arrogance, Meanness, Liars, Extremists of any kind, Fakes, Flakes, Passives/Sissies/Whimps, Irresponsibles and Gays who think like Heteros.

    ;-)Not neccessarily in that order.

    Whew, That was exhausting. I’m gonna take a break and wash my mouth out with scope, lol. I’m not used to so much negativity, LOL.

  53. an absolute hairless body…..no hair on forearms, legs, or pubic area makes me squirm… So unnatural….If i want smooth I’ll fuck a woman…..

    I also can’t stand long diry fingernails.

  55. “tam” I see the truth hurts you.
    So, you might still be able to save yourself (?) But, I’m not betting on it. :-(lol

    And now, we know you’re not a man of your word ;-)~

  56. How am I not a man of my word? I didn’t go back to that post. I never said I wouldn’t post again. I said I wouldn’t on that post.
    Don’t you have something better to do with your time than to follow me around? Oh.. Wait… I forgot… You are probably all alone and have nothing better to do! Never mind. My bad.

  57. dude, u sound like a 3 year old with ur cum backs……. shhhhhhh and enjoy pplz turn offs

  58. “tam”, Who’s following who around? lol

    You’re a classic “Machiavellian” LMFAO

    I felt sad for you for about a second.

    :-)Bye

  59. I’ve gotta say this. It’s amazing to me how I get treated for just standing up for what i believe in. The ONLY person I’ve argued with has been Saint Impatience. I could understand him giving me hate. But he doesn’t. Guess he really is a Saint! But I’ve done nothing to Woody or My Opinion to deserve what I’ve received from them.
    I come here, hoping to fit in since I’m gay. I don’t fit in with the straight world. Yet what do I get from the gays? Hate! Why? Because I don’t fit exactly into the mold that they think I should. I’m told I should hate myself, be shamed. And for what? Because my beliefs are different? I thought we celebrated diversity!
    You guys win. I’m not posting anymore. Enjoy.

  61. The one thing for me is to refer to my dick as a cock…..What?, Or the word jock those two words are so played out catch up with the rest of the world.

  64. Drugs or smoking. Although I’ve tolerated smokey mouths on a few hot guys, as long as they were not actively smoking.

    Trying to sneak in bareback. What a horrible thing to do.

    Being non-responsive, lazy, careless or rude in communications.

    Talking dirty or discussing sexual details way too early in the conversation, or focusing too much on it. Do I really need to give you a play-by-play of how we might have sex??

    Looking, talking or acting like a woman. Not just a little feminine, I’m talking about the extreme cases. I have no problem with how they live their lives, I’m just not attracted to them.

  67. Smoking (including drugs), long hair, bad hygiene (like long finger nails), improper English (like using double negatives), and flakes.

  69. Oh My God, what a drama queen tam. Not everyone dislikes you because of your republican affiliations, or what you believe in. I personally dislike you(and you’ve known that long ago, I’m not teaming up on you now) because of your self-righteous, suck up, condescending attitude. (Now if that fits right a long with the conservative mind set then that’s another story) But, if you’re posting no more then good luck to you.

    Anywho, Woody good job at giving someone a dose of their own medicine.

  72. Bad teeth. I don’t mean like Mom and Dad couldn’t afford braces — but like BAD teeth, like brush-your-freaking-teeth teeth. (Though I won’t lie, jacked up teeth in general…I don’t wanna make out with that.)

  73. Guys who want to talk about their fucking girlfriend when they get to my apartment.

    Guys who make nasty remarks about drag queens. Not one, never will be, don’t find it attractive, but shut the fuck up you sound ignorant.

    Guys who ask ‘does it hurt’ or ‘is this okay’ or ‘can I…’

    Shut the fuck up, throw me on the floor, rip my clothes off and make every inch of my body feel sorry for ever inviting you over.

    Thanks!

  77. guys who think they need to take care of you like some wounded pet. totally insulting. like you are so weak you can’t do it yourself.

    guys who are too shy to do anything.

    guys that think they are a gift to the universe be it because they are “soooo” smart, athletic, good looking, or good in bed.

  78. I hate WOOF. ITS FUCKING STUPID. Grow up. I am not a dog. if you think i am you need to go back to school and learn something about human beings. What part of WOOf is suppose to be hot.

  79. why does no one know how to act like an adult while still having as much fun as a child?

  86. Self righteousness (You need to take a reality check on yourself),
    femininity
    body shaving
    flip flops
    excessive cologne (some of us are allergic and don’t want to smell you from three blocks away)
    queens who cant appreciate that they are recieving a compliment when they get “WOOF”ed

  87. @Mel I could not agree more. “Woof” fucking annoys me too. It sounds so contrived, and really makes no sense.

    @Tam I think a lot of people don’t like you because you’re a troll. I personally don’t like you because you are a part of the force opposing everything we’re trying to achieve. Eff you and your anti-gay rights opinions. I’m glad you’ve resigned yourself to silence tbh.

    My turn off is bad hygiene! Here’s a question, though.. so many guys have said smoking and/or drugs. What if a guy doesn’t smoke cigarettes, but smokes pot once in a while?

  89. Barebacking outside of a closed relationship. There’s a psycho in Milwaukee who’s a poz top who says he only barebacks. I always wonder who’s dumb enough to play with him.

  90. People that think social interaction is a definate lead to sexual intercourse. Just because I have a conversation with you doesn’t mean I am willing to fuck you, let alone set up housekeeping and start picking out a china pattern. Along the same lines, don’t act like if someone says hello to you it automatically means I want you shove my cock in you, or your cock in me.

  91. Wow…some bitter and “ugly” people commenting on this…how sad…

    Since I try to take my time to get to know a person as a person before getting naked, there are few “deal breakers” once we do get naked…however, a few of my “screening” deal-breakers are:

    1. Really bad teeth…teeth are a very good indicator of a person’s general internal health…I agree with the person who posted above regarding people who were not afforded braces or other care as kids…however, even crooked teeth should be clean (freshly brushed if we are meeting) and in good condition (not crumbling away and smelling like a stale fish market)…some people had drugs as a child (like penicillin)which permentantly discolored the tooth enamel…so if in doubt, ask…but that brown and yellow discoloration from years of drinking tea/coffee and smoking is yucky (to me)…

    2. Really bad breath…see number one above.

    3. Wigs/toupees…I guess this goes along with fakes and liars in general…be who you are! Some men love bald guys; some men hate bald guys…in the end, don’t you want someone to want you for being YOU and not some imaginary you?

    4. Guys who, upon the very first communication ever with me, ask me about my cock/dick/penis (whatever term you prefer)…if that is all you really care about in a man, buy yourself the perfect dildo and get off the internet..go and literally play with yourself!

    5. Bad grammar…I enjoyed the discussions on this yesterday…I like generally intelligent men (intelligence does not equate to degrees held…I know some incredibly smart men who never went to college and some complete idiots who have PhD’s)…someone yesterday commented about the guys who never got a chance to get a good education…what a lazy excuse…everyone has a chance at a good education…if you are online and on this internet site, you have a world of education at your fingertips…take a few moments to get off the porn sites and read up on something you always wanted to know! I learn several new things everyday…be intellectually curious! The largest sex organ in the human body is the brain..the guy who can turn me on mentally has definitely turned me on sexually!

    6. Guys who have “scripted” sex…they always do the same thing in the same order, just different partners…they might even have an entire list of “must do” items in their profiles…sex should be natural..do what feels right in the moment with that particular partner…if a person is so concentrated on “okay…did that…now we do this” sex, that person is really not present mentally…what a shame…if you have a particular fetish, discuss it before meeting…that way you already know if it will be “taken care of”…then you can relax and be peasantly surprised when the “fetish moment” arrives…

    7. Drugs…any illegal drug is a deal-breaker for me…I want someone who is mentally clear and “present” for sex or anything else…

    8. Drunks…sort of goes along with number 7 above…I just have an OCD thing for even numbers, so had to have a number 8…couldn’t leave it at seven…

    I am sure there are other things…but I generally try to be a positive person in general and focus on the positive, not on the negative…as a movie title once proclaimed, “Relax…It’s Just Sex”…since I am rarely looking for “just sex”, taking time to get to know something about a person before a sexual situation occurs generally helps in the sex part being “fan-fucking-tastic” most times…something to think about…

    Dennis in Indiana

  92. Dealbreakers for me are: small cock, flakiness, negativity, too many body piercings, pot bellies, too much back hair. But like everyone else “those are just my preferences”.

  93. Well, I suppose since bareback got bashed a lot, I should say that condoms are a deal breaker for me.

    And though I’m an HIV- guy, I’d rather risk it with an HIV+ guy than do anything with a smoker.

    I have a long list of flexible dislikes that aren’t exactly deal breakers, but are definitely things that I’ll avoid…

  94. – men who lie about their penis size (be proud of whatever size u’ve got)
    – men who are too passive to take charge (don’t ask me if u can fuck me)
    – bad breath
    – guys that ask for money

  95. Guys who insist on barebacking
    Drug users
    Oh, and by the way Woody, if you’re looking to get fucked, whose better to fuck you than a Republican? lol although I must admit that the poor folks along the gulf are really getting fucked by the current administrations incompetance dealing with the oil spill disaster!!!! I guess I’m just trying to be “fair and balanced”!!!

  97. – bad breath
    – anything on a guy that is in any way female
    – sex-clothing (like chaps)
    – jockstraps
    – EMO’s

  98. what are my Deal’s Breakers?

    these: the lacks of empathy, Imagination, integrity, and Human Intelligence.

    to Bee, who made an inquiry about the intermittent marihuana user: let’s disregard the Legality Factor, for now; one other thing, then, that may be taken into consideration is one of the effects which marihuana has on a person, when smoked ——

    if my intuition feels correctly, then i might correctly deduce that not many people will appreciate the taste nor the odour of anything burnt on one’s breath, just in general.. ..especially if it is of a chemical nature.

  99. My deal breakers: Dewitt correcting my word usuage. LOL

    Guess could throw in anyone named “WoodY,” makes me think he gets off on ready blogs.

  100. If I didn’t know this was a m4m blog, I’d guess all the respondents were women. I know the question was posted by Dewitt, and everyone answered accordingly, but when are people going to stop telling others what they are attracted to and what they are not attracted to in a conversation or in their online profiles? Why should anyone care what you like or don’t like. It is a conversation that goes nowhere but down, and it is divisive and elitist. And bitchy.

  101. I have a few deal breakers:

    Guys old enough to be my parents or grandparents (mind you my parents just broke 40 a few years ago) because there’s a huge mental block right there.

    Bears/cubs/ect. I’ve made it quite well known that as a twinky guy I’m into guys like me.

    Druggies. I think that’s pretty self explanatory.

    Flakes/Liars/ect. This should also be pretty self explanatory.

    Excessively Dom Tops. I’m not having sex with you so I can be your bitch. I’m my own person and if you can’t deal with me having my opinion of how I like sex. Go home and find someone else who wants to be under your heel.

    Those are the most important ones but that also being said if I saw one of those kinds of guys in a bar I wouldn’t talk to them; as a matter of fact the guys who fall into the first two I tend to talk with more than younger guys. I just don’t want to have sex with them.

  103. A guy that does drugs, who offends me, is functionally retarded, 13 year old whores and 75 year old perverts.

  104. Stupidity. I met a guy that at one point told me he basically cheated his way through High School. He had no motivation or drive, and no longer had my interest.

  106. Woody and Tommy: Do watch out for tam. He will appear under another name. He is too self righteous to give up entirely. What can possibly be worse than being a gay republican? Probably being tam. hehehe

  110. Yes! My favorite response was Doug’s.
    “My dealbreaker are dudes with too many dealbreakers.”
    I definitely share that sentiment. But really, I don’t have a lot of deal breakers. The only thing I can think of is, “I’m bi and I’ll call you up when I’ve had a few drinks.”
    I can usually deal with whatever else comes my way.

  111. Guys with absolutely no body/pubic hair. I like a man who looks like a big ole’ grizzly/polar bear, not an eleven year old girl.

  112. good looking guys with bad breath! (what is essential is invisible to the eyes….)

    dude..u just farted..and i am rimming you!

    ok..i am done…i need to go now!

    after sex…hey man, u have gas money?

  114. Guys that look like their my parents age; take care of yourself for god sake! How am I to respect ANYTHING about you if you don’t respect yourself?
    Fems-its just not my thing or I’d be sleeping with a woman instead of you.
    Liars-don’t send me the pic of you before you decided that McDonalds was your all you can eat buffet setup and a burger should be mandatory as your order.
    Dirty-take a shower, a real hot, soapy shower.
    Flakes-if you blow our meat time up once, don’t worry about me again.
    Bad breathe-its called Listerine kids; use it, abuse it!
    Shit-I don’t want to smell it. NOT AT ALL!

  115. Drug users and guys who say they play safe and then try to bareback!

    No offense if that’s what you want to do, but don’t think that once you get me into the groove I’m going to just say “oh well, what the hell!”

  116. Guys who mispell everything, can’t use proper grammar too save their lives, and then try to tell me that it’s spelled discrete. Here’s a tip you moronic closet cases. Discrete is about separating into distinct parts: notice how the two e’s are separated. Discreet, on the other hand, is about keeping information contained and under wraps: notice how the e’s are closed up within the boundaries of the word.
    Arrogance is another. Don’t act like you’re all hot and the greatest thing since Ke$ha. It’s not hot and will probably make me want to hit you over the head with an iron skillet.
    Guy’s who claim they are masculine and only seek the same. If you were truly masculine, every time you open your mouth it wouldn’t sound like someone poked a hole in the room with all the lisping.
    Finally, again. Closeted guys….If you are married, or just plain chickenshit, that’s fine. It’s your lie, you live it. Don’t expect me to to come over and help you cheat on your wife. I refuse to hide who I am. Quit being paranoid that you are going to be seen by a random acquaintance. Live your life, fuck the world.

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