You and your partner/boyfriend/husband are growing restless. The sex has gotten slightly stagnant. You want to spice things up. Or you’ve both realized that monogamy leaves a lot to be desired. Whatever the reason, you’ve decided to open things up. HALT! Before you jump on Manhunt to find some strange, watch the following video. It’s the latest “In Bed With Colby Keller” and Colby gives you a solid plan of attack when it comes to your first open relationship. This serves as an excellent primer for when you’re both going to venture outside. Maybe it will make you think twice. Maybe it will inspire you. Either way, it’s helpful. And he’s so hot.
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– J. Harvey
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Great advice from Colby. I just love how level headed he is. I wonder if adult stars have open relationships with their partners outside of work purposes.
I LOVE that shirt! Lord Shiva is awesome..
i feel like i just read my horoscope 0.o lol this was just what was on my mind. weird
My partner and I have been together for 14 years…the last 7 have been open. While our relationship is solid, mainly because siince we are allowed it is not as enticing, I have experienced a lot of venom coming from others in the community. Many of the men who have criticized our honest relationship either had never been in a relationship or were serial monogamists. No two relationshps are the same just as no two people are the same. As long as the relationship is truly open whose business is it. Haven’t we been struggling to keep people who do not approve of us out of our bedroom? Thanks Colby for at least laying out one pathway to openness.
Totally agree with you man! I have said for years that people have got to get past this “twelve year old girl’s ” idea of what love is. Sex and love goes with apples and oranges. They aren’t the same. And yes…being in a LTR loses some of the fire after a while. That is when you know if you are truly compatible. Remove sex from the equation and would you still be with that person anyway? A hard dick does not care about love. You can only put it in the same hole for so long before you have to upgrade your cable package. If you can find a partner who understands that love is an emotion and not a physical act…all this crying and hand wringing about cheating goes out the window. But this won’t work for the majority because of the unbelievable levels of insecurity people have.
At this point in my life I wouldn’t want to share my future partner with anyone else. For me, intimacy feels special when it’s shared between only two people who care for each other. I understand that love and sex aren’t necessarily the same thing, but I feel like openness devalues a relationship. My opinions may change as time goes on, but for now, monogamy is for me.
That being said, I don’t judge those who feel like it’s right for them. I actually just emailed this video to a pansexual female friend who has been curious about opening her relationship. More power to her (and anyone else) for following their hearts (and loins haha).
….oh…and Colby Keller looks jacked in this video. Sexy man!
Open relationships aren’t for me and I hate that they’re considered an alternative. I feel that maybe only 5% of people in open relationships are actually doing it because they think without boundaries/borders. I don’t have enough faith in mankind to believe that these people are evolved, even though it’s always talked about as such by proponents of it.
If you’re traditionally monogamous or are in a monogamous relationship but want to seriously fuck around with other people (not just fantasize), you’re either a ratchet or you just aren’t feeling the relationship anymore. To me, a lot of situations are no different than a married man cheating on his wife with other men. Even in situations where there is no sexual attraction at all, most will still stay with who they’ve been either out of fear of being alone or because it’s easier. Laziness isn’t a good reason to stay with anything or anyone.
For me, it just doesn’t jive. Sex is a corporeal need. Why treat an open relationship as something beyond that (sex is physical, love is a bigger bond) when the main reason is to fulfill something basic? Celebate polyamory gets no dispute from me because it makes sense. You’re thinking and feeling on a higher plane. Wanting to fuck around outside of the relationship? Do you, basic bitch.
Didn’t his partner beat the crap out of him?