How To State Your Preference For Bareback Without Being A Total Dick

“There are only few things better than bareback ass fucking & depositing your load deep in a dude’s ass. Actually, I can’t think of anything better! Especially when that ass belongs to Aaron French.”

In case that quote isn’t clear, gay porn couple Aaron French and Seth Chase love having bareback sex. Sometimes they do it together, as seen in the clip below, sometimes they do it with someone else, and sometimes they invite a third for some extra fun. In an attempt to strive for the safest experience possible—and still have the sex they want to have—their models are tested for HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, trichomoniasis, hepatitis B & hepatitis C before filming any scenes or swapping fluids with anyone onscreen.

You might be reading this and thinking, “They’re promoting bareback sex either way!”

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Perhaps you’re right about that! But here’s a list of things they’re not doing—1) Flippantly tossing condoms and casually stating No, I want you guys raw, 2) Using derogatory slang like “condom queen” to describe anyone who doesn’t share their preference for raw sex, 3) Staring at condoms with disdain and removing them midway through a scene to make a statement, 4) Implying their scenes are “better” because they’re bareback, and 5) Actively stating, in any way, that sex with a condom is inferior or may cause “suffocation“.

I’m not trying to hold up Aaron and Seth as saints, so much as illustrate that condom shaming has become a reality. While it sucks that anyone would mock another individual’s sex life, take a moment to pause and think about this… People who bareback have every right to be pissed off at the world! They’re regularly told they’re “wrong”, “diseased” or “insane” even if they’re communicating with their partners, making informed decisions, practicing monogamy and/or classified by literally none of the insults hurled in their direction.

There doesn’t need to be a war against condoms. There doesn’t need to be a war against bareback. If we all stopped bitching and fighting, we could agree on one thing—we all want to have fulfilling sex without fear of judgment from anyone else. We don’t want to be told how to use our own bodies, and we don’t want people making hurtful assumptions based on how we use them.

Bottom line? Don’t be a dick about your preference! And, similarly, don’t be a dick when someone tells you their preference. A simple “no thanks” or a compromise will do the trick, and ensure that everyone keeps a smile on their face and a hard dick wherever (and however) it may go.

– Dewitt

Photo credit: Seth Chase

Watch Seth Chase and Aaron French have the sex they want to have below:

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

Seth Chase fucks his partner Aaron French in a bareback gay porn scene.

See even more of these two (and their friends) on SETH CHASE.

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40 thoughts on “How To State Your Preference For Bareback Without Being A Total Dick

  1. Good write up Dewitt and your right on with what you said!

    I think too many of us now a days have more bad days than good and seem to have the need to take it out on others to feel better about our own lives through it.

    But as long as it is talked about and consensual decision no one has the else has the right to say yay or ney in a derogatory way. But it is hard when it is an open discussion and put on display openly to expect all to be cool about it and not get some issues to pop up.

    But I have to admit those Stealth breeders out there make me nervous. I heard of one recently at a local porn store in my city and have to admit it has made me hesitant to return there or any of them since someone reported it on a site.

    While I have BB sex with my husband all the time for 9 years now and prefer it I am not one to do it with a stranger without seeing a recent set of test results and talking about it first. And it still makes me nervous anyways.

    But porn wise I am more turned on with BB sex than any other type. Not sure if it is good or bad or creating issues for others down the road but hard to deny the hotness factor of it all.

  2. There are only few things better than bareback ass fucking &
    depositing your load deep in a dude’s ass. Actually, I can’t think of
    anything better! Especially when that ass belongs to Aaron French.”

    This ISN’T being a total dick? I mean, saying to someone, “the only thing better than playing russian roulette with your ass would be doing it with someone else”, ISN’T considered bad form?

    As for the rest of your post, humbug. This idea that people don’t (or want to) emulate what they see in the porn they watch is ludicrous — and glorifying bareback sex (with someone other than your monogamous partner) is irresponsible in the extreme.

  3. i dont have any probs with BB in that if its between two or more consenting adults it is their choice, if they have gone through all the tests etc then i guess thats better then just going out n doin randoms bare however for myself its something i will never do but each to ur own…….the people that worry me are the fella afew weeks ago who on a BB post like this stated ‘why shud men where condoms they cant get pregnant’……that ignorance really scares me…..least these guys know their is a risk and have done what they needed to do,

  4. A guy better wrap it if he wants to get with me. My life my rules. It really pisses me off when on the rare occasion I hook up with a guy and I am totally up front before we meet up that a condom is a must. Then he tries to test the waters without one. Then I have to be the firm one saying ‘you need to put on a condom’ why do I have to repeat myself when I am totally up front to begin with? Never fails. Most guys try this.

  5. Dewitt You are promoting BARE BACKING the only difference is the manner that you have choosing in promoting the subject and that Dewitt is SHAMEFUL !!!

  6. I agree one hundred percent. The movie does not represent a situation where bareback sex could be considered “safe sex:” ….like in a monogamous relationship waiting sufficient time for testing to consider bareback sex. Unfortunately most of those that can attest to the tragedy of bareback sex are DEAD. The score is still gay man zero, AIDS one hundred.

  7. super classy discussion…especially as there’s an ad for Truveda right next to the article in the sidebar stating ‘once daily Truveda can help prevent HIV’. real fucking classy.

  8. There needn’t be a war in favor of condoms? Really?
    With influx of diseases on the rise in both the hetero and gay communities including an uptick in teen pregnancy…

    Shameless promotion of this sort which pretends that there are not indeed life-threatening ramifications and potentially severe health complications directly attributed to such reckless actions is sad.

    It would be just dandy if it were not for that pesky sun-of-a-gun called reality.
    This goes beyond a matter personal/ privates choice, which of course is fine between consenting adults, you can’t stop that..however depicting and speaking of these acts with no earnest regard to the potential consequences and taking no responsibility for said promotion is downright dangerous and beneath.

  9. I know I like it better when I’m watching a movie and I know the stuntman is really falling off a building with no safety net, lines or padding.

  10. Sigh….
    Again, pulling out, cumming on his hole, then pushing it back in is so misleading. I know there are so many terms for ‘breeding’, but when i see ‘bareback’ in the title, that’s really what I’m expecting (hoping) to see.

  11. In addition – we see this reckless bareback promotion upon signing into Manhunt “Outdoor Bareback Fun” or what ever the Dallas Reeves catchphrase is and again upon signing off in the form of Pigs at the Troff.
    It’s quite stunning to have this thrown in your face on a website where men gather for the purpose of meeting for sex.
    Seeking bareback porn in your privacy and getting off on it is a contained event. Being shown bareback porn on a hook up site where it’s made to look like a fun ol’ day in the park is an entirely different poison.

  12. Then again, if no one bought them, they wouldn’t continue to be made. Remember, I Dream of Jeanie couldn’t show her belly button. I Love Lucy couldn’t show Lucy and Ricky in the same bed… even though they were married. The earth was once ‘flat’. And To *prevent* the plague, you carried around Rats (that carried the plague). Graham Crackers were invented to ‘cure’ children of impure and horny thoughts. So much changes, people. Whether you like it or not (whether I like it or not), again… if it sells, that means people want it.

  13. It all boils down to honesty. If you are a top and want to bb and are up front and honest about it, then there is no issue if the bottom says ok. As safe sex is a misnomer to start with (absent masturbation) bare backing is just one area of risk. Giving head with an active cut in your mouth carries a good degree of risk also even when you consider the hostile environment the mouth is for the HIV virus. Rimming carries it own set of risks for those who find feces aromatic rather than vomit inducing. I don’t see a need to trash those who state their preference for bare backing. If they agree to wrap it or decide that they won’t compromise the decision should be upfront with both people. But without regular testing, and safer sex using common sense and condoms, there is little hope of removing the threat of HIV from the gay community. On the other hand, I believe that anyone who knows they are positive, yet deliberately engages in unsafe anal sex with an unknowing partner, should be guilty of a felony.

  14. No offense, but Manhunt Daily isn’t where I come for information on safer sex and risk reduction. Just focus on the sexy men fucking, bareback or wearing 12 condoms.

  15. I think a lot of men within the LGBT community are not adequately educated about HIV/STDs and prevention. There are a lot of faux facts floating around out there. I seriously had one guy try tooth and nail to convince me that being undetected lowers the risk of transmission by 90% (and that is an exact quote). Plus, the fact that kids as young as 12 can be tested for HIV/STD should be a wake up call to everyone. It’s time to take this seriously.

    IMHO, if you’re going to hunt online, in parks, theatres or bathhouses for dick/ass, at least make a conscious & educated decision. We live in a dishonest world. There are a lot of people who don’t know/won’t admit their status and plenty that will not get tested. If you are going to bb, know all of the correct facts and be able to accept the consequences. There are too many guys that contract HIV or a STD and become angry at the World.

    As corny as it sounds, know your status, own your status.

  16. Why should it be anyones responsibility but the two consenting adults who choose to bb? We all know the risks. Porn is a fantasy and people want to watch that. There is a disclaimer at the beginning of most bb videos. If people choose to do what they see on television then that’s their decision has nothing to do with the 20min clip you watch online

  17. What a silly article. To each their own, but let’s get it right, barebacking is DANGEROUS and potentially deadly – regardless of how “careful” a person might be. Test me on Monday, clear me on Tuesday, bb fuck me on Wednesday, infect you on Thursday…..An inexact measure of time, but you get the point……..

  18. Porn isn’t a fantasy, it’s reality. The people on screen are actually fucking, not pretending. This isn’t Avatar or Lord of the Rings. There shouldn’t be a market people putting taking serious risks for cash because some people want to jack off to it. The argument of consenting adults doesn’t work for me, unless you also support snuff films where the victim chooses to die.

  19. There is still no cure for HIV and AIDS. Anyone who decides to take the risks can do so as it is a free country. The problem is that too many people get infected for not being bold enough to ask the questions as it “might ruin the mood”, or men who lie about their status. I have a friend whose partner lied to him and only found out when his partner got very sick and died. He didn’t discover how much deception was involved until after he died and discovered all he was doing to hide it, including creating phony test results on his computer. After he tested positive, he became very depressed and committed suicide. And while this case is an extreme example, it is only one of the stories I’ve come to hear about friends being infected from men they trust. You have to have respect for your life and those you love and I think playing safe is the best route.

  20. I have been with my husband for 20 years and we have NEVER barebacked…..EVER!!! There are so many other things that can happen other than the usual…there are urinary infections that can mask as many other problems and can cause so much pain and discomfort. Remember, you are putting your cock up an ass and your penis is being exposed to waste…..and your cock is open and fucking….and SHIT and BILE is going into your piss slit and seeping down into your balls…..GET A CLUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  21. First off cleaning out is a good idea and basically avoids what your saying Kelley. My hubby and I have BB with each other for 9 years now and never had any of those issues.

    But as long as your happy with what your doing that is all that matters and I applaud you both for your 20 years and enjoyment of sex together still.

    I hope we hit 20 together and more as well.

  22. some do, some dont……its their choice forcing someone to do something they dont wanna do is never gonna work at the same time i just hope they know the risks and if anything does happen to them they dont blame others for it….

  23. My main thought on this is that it is each individual’s choice, whether they be in porn or having an intimate moment in their real life, when it comes to whether or not to wrap up their dick with a condom – with the exception of positive porn stars – using those men and women in unsafe sex scenes is wrong, to me. I don’t personally sleep with anyone positive, but I know you can make educated and safe sexual choices even after such a diagnosis. Yes, we should be better educated when making any sexual choice BUT that is not directly Manhunt.net or ManhuntDaily’s purpose in our lives. We go to the main site or this one in an effort to get off, not to educate ourselves. And in the past, they have attempted to educate us – did it mean we listened or used the resources available to us, to justify the expense towards Manhunt’s bottom line? This is, after all, a business with employees and overhead, etc. Also, while this is not a good example of advocating safe BB they did not justify their sexual choice by bashing those of us who do use condoms or other safe sex measures, and the Cocksure men scene that was dismissive of safe sex was in poor taste because of how dismissive and crude they were about their distaste of condoms. That’s the difference the writer, Dewitt, was attempting to make clear. If one has to watch a BB sex scene, at least watch one that does not dismiss those of us who choose to wear protection. Sure, the men in the video are a tad over the top in their enthusiasm towards BB sex, but that is their choice – and it is yours as to whether or not you support them by watching them or their videos and/or purchasing a membership on their site. And, having been on the receiving end of some truly nasty reactions to my NOT wanting to have BB sex – such as “Oh, I’ve heard about you, you are a nasty POZ slut!” when I’ve been tested regularly and my results are negative … I don’t shame guys who have unsafe sex, and I don’t see why I need to be shamed for choosing to have safe sex.

  24. While we’ve had SOME differences in the past – like you hating on me because I didn’t like one guy who was groomed too far – we mostly see eye to eye. LOL

  25. Wow Dewitt, you really got the conversation going with this article. I, for one, really liked it — keep up the good work!

  26. Oh Dewitt, I think I just love you a little bit more right now. Powerful writing here. Good on ya. We need more compassion and less judgment in all areas of our lives.

  27. Wow, you don’t have the tiniest clue about how the reproductive and digestive systems of the human male are set up, do you?

  28. “This idea that people don’t (or want to) emulate what they see in the porn they watch is ludicrous”. You sound like the PMRC. That is, people who wanted to censor what other people listened to because they thought the idea that children don’t(or want to) emulate what they hear in pop music is ludicrous. You know what *I* think is ludicrous? The idea that grown adults get to relinquish all responsibility and consequence for their actions by simply saying, “I saw it in a porn! It looked hot so I had to do it!” That’s ludicrous, and anyone who actually says it (and means it) shouldn’t be watching porn anyway because they clearly aren’t mature enough to handle it.

  29. What really bothers me is when performers do bareback videos and then get pissed off and indignant when someone asks them their status,I’m sorry but if you do bareback porn most people are going to assume your positive. I used to really like Charlie Harding and Brad Kalvo but after they pulled their little condom shaming stunts with that asshat Mike Dozer I won’t be watching their videos anymore.

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