Just so you don’t think I’m a terrible person, it should be noted that I cringed when I wrote the title of this post. So many people I know and love have dealt with rape or some form of sexual abuse within their lifetimes. Please stop reading now if you are one of those people. The guilt that I could, even just potentially, trigger a traumatic memory for you makes me want to vomit in my mouth.
It feels even grosser to be discussing the topic of rape fantasy with Todd Akin’s “legitimate rape” comments fresh in everyone’s mind. Yet, in a way, maybe it’s even more appropriate to be addressing this topic right now. I mean, why are we turned on by rape porn? You might be replying right now, “Fuck you! I’m not into that shit!”
And that might be true. But somebody is watching this stuff.
Sites that focus on this specific niche are wildly popular, more so than the multitude of sites that feature sex between consenting adults. Is it okay because we know, or at least try to convince ourselves, that we’re not seeing actual rape on the screen? That these performers are technically consenting adults who are just role-playing in a nonconsensual scenario? Or is there something deeper here? When you watch a rape scene, are you fantasizing about being raped or raping someone? Or are you merely getting off on the increased level of aggressive energy and dominance?
I’m asking this after watching a scene from Parole Him, in which a police officer practically fists a young man and laughs sadistically as he stretches his hole. He doesn’t care if it feels good. He doesn’t care if it feels bad. He just cares that he’s “searching for drugs”, and that’s the funniest thing in the world for him.
While watching this short trailer, I could feel my dick pressing HARD against the zipper of my jeans. It was wrong. And I knew it… But there was something about the officer’s attitude that appealed to my submissive side. It made me want to bend over and let him “search me for drugs” whether it felt good or not.
That said, I do not want to be raped. I don’t want anyone else to be raped. Why was I aroused by this clip? Why did it make me so hard that there was pre-cum dripping down my thigh? Why did I want that police officer to step on my face and fuck me ’til I’m sore? Was there some weird catharsis to all of this? Is there something psychologically wrong with me?
Nope. I think it was just because he had a big dick.
I’m a terrible person, right?
– Dewitt
Photo credit: Parole Him
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See what else happens between these two at Parole Him.
its always been a fantasy to be raped or gang raped ive had several times over as a sub its kinda like the epitome of sexual fulfillment
I think for many it is more the dom/sub kind of thing. Hard to believe anyone would want to be forcibly raped. Guess it is possible? There are stranger things out there.
I think for many it is more the dom/sub kind of thing. Hard to believe anyone would want to be forcibly raped. Guess it is possible? There are stranger things out there.
I dunno- I sometimes find rough sex hot to watch on video if I’m in the mood for it, but, since I myself was sexually assaulted in college when I was 18, I would probably flip out if anyone ever tried it on me.
I don’t find it that uncommon actually to have rape fantasies. and definetely the be used by a bunch of guys fantasy.
Raping a guy is not a good idea because if he does not WANT to bottom his ass won’t be clean therefore it’s REALLY not a good idea to fuck him .
Those porn films are all clean and nice though ( well at least i hope so )
I know a few guys where I live that enjoy being forced to submit to sex – for them, being raped is the ultimate submission.
Hold the phone! You’re saying it’s a bad idea to rape a guy, because you might get poop on your dick?
I think there are OTHER reasons why “raping a guy is not a good idea”.
Fortunately in cases of legitimate rape it’s possible for the bottom’s body to naturally expel the HIV that may have been transmitted to him.
gross site
gross site
Whatever floats your boat right? What appeals to one…repulses another. I would drink a hot guy’s piss before I would suck on his toes.
The top is a former porn actor from the late 80’s/90’s. Can’t think of his name but I recall him being from Falcon.
I’ve been with a couple/few guys who wanted me to “rape” them. It made me totally uncomfortable. I admit to trying to please one guy by doing it, but when he was screaming for me to stop, and I did, he asked why did I stop. I said, well, because you said stop. He said, but a rape victim /would/ say that, keep going.
I tend to be a laid back guy sexually, whatever the other guy wants gets me off, but not that.
And brought to you by the Manhunt organization itself.
And brought to you by the Manhunt organization itself.
The “cop” is played by Chance Caldwell.
I have always heard that many women have rape fantasies. I disagree with he fact that there are many men and women who want to be raped. I agree that it is more of a Submissive fantasy. Submitting to someone and having no control or responsibility for being a whore is an appealing to many repressed men and women.Being taken, ravaged and used while loving every minute of it. I’m sure a few donkey-punches to the head and they may feel differently.Most of the rape stories I have heard about or read about get;s people, Black eyes, broken jaws, arms, wrists, busted heads etc, I do not believe a lot of people want that shit going down.
I think this appeals to many gay men because of the rough sex aspect and also making a str8 guy to submit. Making str8 guys squirm and beg degrading them is a lot of gay men’s fantasy.Sex can be a form of power. who’s in control? Who’s giving up control or having it taken from them?
P.S> Chance Caldwell should stick to str8 porn, because when he does do the random bi, gay or tranny video he sucks. He’s been a cocksucker and a bottom bitch if he cannot do that any longer then he shouldn’t do any more videos having sex with men.
its the bodies way of shutting down the rape
Here we go again…. I laugh so hard everything I see you comment on anything with bare sex… get a life dude!
Just knowing that I amuse you is enough of a life for me and sure to keep me going.
Well at least he’s being very politically topical and somewhat humorous about it this time. Usually it just feels like preaching…like a broken record of preaching.
Coming from someone who’s been
Coming from someone who’s been
Coming from someone who’s been
Well to be honest I personally have had one on one hookups with men I found to be hot on manhunt and at times had fantasy of getting raped. I like my sex rough , I like it when a top forces his cock down my throat by putting his hands on the back of my head. At times I hope that when I show up for a hookup , I find several expecting to be serviced rather then just the one I made arrangements with. I mean the sole purpose of going to a hookup is to get fucked and I say the more exciting it is the better!
I will admit right now that it is a fantasy that turns me on… but I never tell guys that, because I know how weird it sounds. I think it requires being able to know the line between what is fantasy and what is reality. I would never want to be legitimately raped, and I having nothing but sympathy for people who have had to endure such a traumatic experience. In terms of watching it in porn, I know it’s not real; it’s fake, it’s acting, it’s just fantasy. And, personally, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I find that it’s more strongly related to an increased level of aggression, and the dominant/submissive attitude.
That being said, I’m also terrible at role-playing, and feel super awkward. Haha.
I will admit right now that it is a fantasy that turns me on… but I never tell guys that, because I know how weird it sounds. I think it requires being able to know the line between what is fantasy and what is reality. I would never want to be legitimately raped, and I having nothing but sympathy for people who have had to endure such a traumatic experience. In terms of watching it in porn, I know it’s not real; it’s fake, it’s acting, it’s just fantasy. And, personally, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I find that it’s more strongly related to an increased level of aggression, and the dominant/submissive attitude.
That being said, I’m also terrible at role-playing, and feel super awkward. Haha.
I used to hook up with a dude that would have me come over in the middle of the night “break in to his house” and “rape him in his sleep”. He would “wake up” when I started fucking him hard and be all “what’s going on, who the fuck are you?” he would squirm and scream “stop” “get off me”. I’d rough him up a little bit. It was really really fucking hot. Of course we planned it ahead of time with safe words and we both consented. Damn I miss that ass
There’s a famous short story by Margaret Atwood entitled “Rape Fantasies,” about a group of women talking about their rape fantasies, until one of them begins to tell a very disturbing story about what rape is actually like. Atwood is pointing out that in a rape fantasy, the fantasist does not actually cede control, but maintains it–within the parameters of the fantasy. I’ve been on both ends of pretty intense rough sex, and I’ve been sexually assaulted by a (drunk) boyfriend. Completely different experiences. And anyone who is playing around with rape fantasies–or dom/sub games, or rough sex (or drugs and alcohol)–should make sure they know the difference.
At the same time, as a member of a community that is maligned, degraged, beaten and killed because I am perceived to be a sexual pervert, I long ago abandoned the notion that I should pass judgment on anyone else’s sexual predilections. Desire is complicated.
There’s a famous short story by Margaret Atwood entitled “Rape Fantasies,” about a group of women talking about their rape fantasies, until one of them begins to tell a very disturbing story about what rape is actually like. Atwood is pointing out that in a rape fantasy, the fantasist does not actually cede control, but maintains it–within the parameters of the fantasy. I’ve been on both ends of pretty intense rough sex, and I’ve been sexually assaulted by a (drunk) boyfriend. Completely different experiences. And anyone who is playing around with rape fantasies–or dom/sub games, or rough sex (or drugs and alcohol)–should make sure they know the difference.
At the same time, as a member of a community that is maligned, degraged, beaten and killed because I am perceived to be a sexual pervert, I long ago abandoned the notion that I should pass judgment on anyone else’s sexual predilections. Desire is complicated.
There’s a famous short story by Margaret Atwood entitled “Rape Fantasies,” about a group of women talking about their rape fantasies, until one of them begins to tell a very disturbing story about what rape is actually like. Atwood is pointing out that in a rape fantasy, the fantasist does not actually cede control, but maintains it–within the parameters of the fantasy. I’ve been on both ends of pretty intense rough sex, and I’ve been sexually assaulted by a (drunk) boyfriend. Completely different experiences. And anyone who is playing around with rape fantasies–or dom/sub games, or rough sex (or drugs and alcohol)–should make sure they know the difference.
At the same time, as a member of a community that is maligned, degraged, beaten and killed because I am perceived to be a sexual pervert, I long ago abandoned the notion that I should pass judgment on anyone else’s sexual predilections. Desire is complicated.
There’s a famous short story by Margaret Atwood entitled “Rape Fantasies,” about a group of women talking about their rape fantasies, until one of them begins to tell a very disturbing story about what rape is actually like. Atwood is pointing out that in a rape fantasy, the fantasist does not actually cede control, but maintains it–within the parameters of the fantasy. I’ve been on both ends of pretty intense rough sex, and I’ve been sexually assaulted by a (drunk) boyfriend. Completely different experiences. And anyone who is playing around with rape fantasies–or dom/sub games, or rough sex (or drugs and alcohol)–should make sure they know the difference.
At the same time, as a member of a community that is maligned, degraged, beaten and killed because I am perceived to be a sexual pervert, I long ago abandoned the notion that I should pass judgment on anyone else’s sexual predilections. Desire is complicated.
Thanks for the compliment, Michael. That means a lot to me.
Thanks for the compliment, Michael. That means a lot to me.
Oh, I’m sure that it does.
🙂
I think when it comes to rape fantasies it is similar to bdsm. Sure I might fantasize about some hot guy breaking into my house and tying me up and gagging me and..and …ahem. My point is: if some guy actually broke into my house and tied me up I’m certain I wouldn’t be turned on.
i have not fantasized about being raped.
i know someone who was raped.
they damaged him badly.
and in more than one way.
rape != “dom/sub play.”