An Interview With Dirk Caber: Classical Music, Double-Penetration & Juggling His Porn Identity

It’s well-documented that we here at Manhunt Daily have the collective hots for Dirk Caber, the hunky, blue-eyed Bostonian who’s starred in such classics as Stepfather’s Secret, Donkey Dick Daddies and The Boy Who Cried DILF. (You may sense a theme.)

We talked over the phone last week, and Mr. Caber filled me in on his summer plans, a Viennese operetta that he’s currently reconstructing, and what it’s like being penetrated by two dicks at once. There was a lot to cover, clearly.

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Read what Dirk had to say and watch a sneak peek of his double-penetration clip below:

Dirk Caber for gay porn site MEN.COM

You’re in Atlanta! What brings you there?

I’m here filming for MEN.COM. I fill their daddy quotient, and they seem to like me. This is turning into pretty steady work, and the scenes that they’ve released so far have done really well. I had good friends here, but they moved to San Diego right when I started coming here. I’ll be filming somewhere up in the mountains tomorrow, but they haven’t told us where yet.

Any idea who you’ll be fucking?

No, actually. They’ll tell me if I remember to ask, but I don’t always remember… I’m also running on three hours of sleep, I should mention, in case any of my answers don’t make sense.

The Stepdad series you did for MEN.COM looked really good!

It did. I’ve worked with studios where there’s just so much setup involved in the production. This was much less formal, but they produce fairly polished results. I’m actually surprised how well they looked. But they produce a scene a day, basically. It’s kind of amazing how much content they produce. They’ve been fun to work with.

Do you have a lot of other work lined up?

Not at the moment, but a lot of production slows down in the summer. Most of the studios have some backlog of content, so they slow down on actual filming in the summer to give post-production time to catch up. By late August, the calls will start coming in again. I’m looking forward to spending some time at home with Jesse for a change.


Jesse Jackman and Dirk Caber for Island House

Any personal travel plans this summer?

We’ve got a couple of little weekend things set up. The first weekend of August we’ll be in Ogunquit with Steve Dupont, Mr. New England Leather. I’m from Maine so that’s kind of a homecoming for me. And then later in August, we’ll be in Key West. Then in September, I’ll be in Europe. London for the first week, and then in Berlin to film with Cazzo

You’re quite the traveler!

It’s been kind of awesome. I get to see places that I really didn’t know before. The amount of time that I actually spend in airports is getting to be a little much, though. Oh, and Jesse and I will be catching Pride in Providence this year. We’re missing New York, but I love the night parade in Providence. There’s so much art and creativity going on, too. It really is a splendid city.

I’ll also be going to Dore Alley in San Francisco at the end of July. Jesse’s not sure if he can make it yet, but that Thursday night they’re premiering a short film called Tryst that I made with David Graham. It’s about fifteen minutes long, and it’s basically a hotel hookup that goes hilariously wrong. My character is kind of the reason that it goes wrong, but he doesn’t get it.

Is this your first time acting in something that’s not porn?

I acted all through high school and college, so it’s not a completely new venture. It’s my first film acting, but I got some good advice from friends. Act about one quarter as much as you would on stage, and it will come across on camera. Whenever you’re supposed to feel an emotion, just think the emotion, and it will come across.

Dirk Caber locker room selfie

Was this a one-off, or do you want to do more mainstream work?

I’m hoping it leads to more. This fellow Justin Costello did an unstaged reading of a screenplay he adapted from John Preston’s novel Mr. Benson, and there’s talk of there being funds to make a film. Mr. Benson is kind of Preston’s magnum opus, and it’s a description of the seventies S/M scene.

But take those trappings off and you have a potboiler. It’s not his best book, actually. It was originally written as a serial for, I think, Drummer Magazine, and I think Preston himself got a little tired of it by the end. Having met him a number of times in Maine, I know that he was much more likely to talk about his journalism and his later sci-fi stuff that he wrote towards the end of his life, but Mr. Benson is the book he’s best known for.

I guess being on airplanes a lot also gives you plenty of time to read…

I read a lot, yes. I’m about to embark on Sacrament by Clive Barker, but I just finished going through a pretty thick musical treatise by Albert Schatz. I’ve been doing a lot of music reading lately.

I know you’re a classical musician. Are you playing much these days?

Not as much as I’d like. I’m still looking for a brass group in Boston, like a brass quintet. Singing’s slowing down a little bit, too. But I’ve been working on the reconstruction of an operetta that was found in an attic in Vienna about a year ago. The score’s sort of war-beaten and missing pages, and I’ve been trying to reconstruct it.

It’ll be performed for the first time in August at Bard College. It’s been occupying a lot of my time for the past two months. I’d like to go for the performance, but I just can’t. They don’t actually need me in attendance, once I send it off to them, it’s in somebody else’s hands to worry about.

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Do you worry ever about your porn identity and your non-porn identity interfering with each other? How do you deal with that?

Well, Jesse and I like to show we’re not just figures in a box that get taken out and put back when the cameras are off. We’re both doing that on our blogs, and we both write about finding a balance between our real life and our popular life.

Jesse posts nonstop, and he’s always looking for material to write about. We’re constantly stopping so he can take pictures, and he does it really well, which is why he’s got five times as many followers as I do.

I tend to take a lot more time writing longer things, and as a result, I post a lot more rarely. And I tend to write much less about promoting an appearance or filming with so-and-so, and more just saying “These are the things the interest me,” or “If you’re interested in joining the industry, here are the things you need to know.”

Jesse talks about his real job and his family, and he talks about porn. Every once in a while, we’ll post videos of us having sex at home.

Yeah, we’ve seen the two of you having sex a lot… Is it weird fucking on camera with the person you go home to at night?

We have a ball with that, but it’s a different set of challenges. We’ve filmed four scenes together for Titan, which is a lot, since as a rule they don’t film real-life couples at all. Because it’s not about having fun together, it’s about looking like you’re having fun together, which is not the same thing.

Back in January, we shot two different scenes in three days. It probably speaks a lot about how Titan feels about how marketable we are as a couple. We get told we bicker like an old married couple on set, and I think we raise a few eyebrows occasionally with people who don’t know us well. We touch each other’s nerves occasionally.

Conversely, though, we know what works for each other, and we feel comfortable with each other.

I think the last scene we saw you in together had a lot of pissing, which made me very happy.

Dirk Caber and Jesse Jackman watersports piss play

Kissing or pissing?

Pissing! But our commenters were all pretty anti-watersports. What do you think makes that one act so polarizing?

Oh, I don’t know. Do people hate it? I think it’s one of those things that people either love or just don’t see the point of. There are people who think it’s dirty, I guess, although it’s not. Of all the effluvia of the body, it’s probably about as innocuous as it gets.

It doesn’t do a lot for me in my own life, but knowing that it turns somebody else on is really hot to me. And for the Titan Rough line, it’s a big part of that. For a lot of the scenes I’ve done for Titan, there’s an awful lot of pissing. You know, it’s a part of the “men are dogs” aesthetic that they’re selling.

You’re no stranger to fetishes in your personal life, though.

Oh, definitely. It’s because of my background in the New York BDSM scene that I got into porn in the first place. I had a reputation for knowing my stuff, and a director from Titan noticed. He said it’s rare to find somebody who knows their stuff enough to be a dom but who also looks the part. They made me an offer, and it took me about two years to say yes. The first scene that I filmed with Titan, I pissed on a guy and poured wax on him. I have an awful lot of fun with that.

It looks fun.

I do love the S/M, because you have to be so much more creative. It’s more than just finding a scenario where two guys end up fucking. Why are you tying this guy up? And how? You can’t just beat the shit out of somebody.

Conversely, on set that amount of setup can be frustrating, because you spend all your time setting up the rigging. It takes a long time to tie somebody up. Watching bondage is slow, so the viewer never sees the whole process. Bound Gods is famous for having the guy already tied up at the start of the scene.

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Anything you haven’t done in porn that you’d like to do soon?

That’s a hard thing to say… I’ve probably done more already than most people in the industry! I checked off another box recently, my first double penetration.

On top?

No, I was the bottom.

Nice!

Yeah. I’m not sure I’m in any great hurry to do it again. It’s hard to get a camera and a light in that small space. It’s really, really challenging to make something that the viewer can actually see.

Have you ever done it before without the cameras there?

A couple of times, yeah. Not often. The stars need to be aligned. This particular scene was going one way, and all of a sudden something wasn’t working out, and I said well, why don’t we try… And they said good idea! But to answer your question, I guess I’d like to get some of my own bondage work on camera. In bondage scenes it’s always the director that does all of the rope work, and the guys that I’ve worked with—Van Darkholme, Christopher Weston—are masters of their art. But so am I! It’s a real skill that I have.

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BONUS – Tom Faulk & Jarec Wentworth double-penetrate Dirk in an upcoming scene for MEN.COM:

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